Thursday, 24 April 2014

The odds are good but the goods are odd!

Dating agency RSVP receive enquiries from single men and women of all ages on a daily basis. When we talk to these people, there is one common reason why they have decided to contact us; the frustrations experienced through online dating! Surveys suggest that at least half of daters on-line admit to lying and I have read some that claim it can be as high as eighty per cent.  All I know for sure is that I have been told some strange and scary stories at interview by prospective members about their experiences of using online sites. The most common story we come across is that people end up not being who they say they are, false profile pictures and other identity issues. This quite obviously creates both trust and safety issues initially and also for future dates.

The most common things I have heard that people lie about on-line include for men:

Height (they claim to be taller than they are);
Physique (for rugby build read few extra pounds);
Age (usually younger);
Amount of hair;
Interests and hobbies

And women admit to lying about:

Weight (just losing a few extra pounds);
Age (usually younger);
Interests and hobbies

Whilst the Internet allows us the freedom to represent ourselves in a way we wish people would see us or the way we wish we could actually be, unless you are happy living in cyber space indefinitely, your lies will find you out when you meet in the flesh. And at that point there date is starting on a lie, which can leave a nasty taste.

One of the main differences between choosing RSVP over an online agency is that we always meet every member before joining and this seems to be a very import reason in deciding to join. It means that we have met all of our clients face to face and have checked out their real date of birth and talked to them about what things they do in their spare time.

Furthermore, we get feedback after our members have been on dates with our members, so it helps us to build an even more accurate picture of what people are really like and what they are looking for.  All this means that we can select matches for our members based on what we really know about our members rather than what people like to think about themselves.

Even better, you can come along to our RSVP events and meet the members face to face at our hosted social functions.  That way you can meet potential matches in a natural setting, enjoying a meal or a walk, or other activity. Have a look at a sample calendar to see the types of events on offer.