Friday, 24 May 2019

Look For a New Love, Not a Replacement

Dating after you have met ‘your one’ or ‘the one’ who turned out not to be the one, is undoubtedly a challenge and something we understand very well at RSVP Dating Agency and Singles Club. Everyone has a dating history and is shaped by past experience. On occasions, RSVP Dating Consultants hear prospective members describing their previous partner in a lot of detail or even show us photos of them, then requesting us to look for someone with either physical attributes or character traits that their previous partner possessed. It can be very difficult to move on from an ex, and it is natural to want to take the best parts of them with you.  However, this could be holding you back from seeing a new person’s personality and discovering their individual quirks. If you put an ex-partner on a pedestal and measure everyone else up to them, it is time to refresh your attitude and open your eyes a little wider.

At RSVP, we offer different membership levels to suit everyone. wanting to go offline dating If you need extra help in your dating journey, especially if you are trying to get over someone, our Platinum introduction agency membership will provide you with the one-to-one support with your own Dating PA. At RSVP, we meet all of our members and get to know them well. The Head Office team are there to help you on your dating journey.

When dating, it is important to think of a new person you've met as a person in their own right. It goes without saying that constant comparison to an ex could put a real strain on a new relationship. I am not suggesting forgetting the good memories of someone who was dear to you when there was once a lot of love; however, it is crucial to appreciate the differences between people and begin a new love interest as a completely new and separate chapter in your life. Learn to enjoy discovering this new person; don’t assume that they know your preferences for how you have your coffee or don’t remember that TV show that you and your ex-partner could quote back to each other. They may not immediately slot into your life and routine the way a previous partner did, but they can bring you joy and you can still enjoy a different kind of relationship. How about building new memories and traditions? Open yourself up to their life and the possibilities it could bring you both.

Don’t let your past hold your future hostage. If you are interested in starting journey with us at RSVP Dating Agency and Singles Club simply provide us with some of your details and a member of our friendly team will be in touch.

Wednesday, 17 April 2019

How Successful is RSVP?

At RSVP Dating Agency and Singles Club, we are frequently asked what our ‘success rate’ is by prospective members. What a difficult question to answer and it doesn’t get easier in our 27 years of business. This completely depends on how you define success. It isn’t as simple as asking a driving instructor what their pass rate is. Typically, people who are enquiring to join a Dating Agency ask something along the lines of one of the below:
-How many marriages are you responsible for?

-How many couples have got together through RSVP singles events or Introductions?

-How many RSVP couples have started a family?

So why is it so difficult to answer those questions?

Firstly, whilst we always love to hear back from members who have met their partner through us, they don’t always tell us. However, some members do keep in touch and share their success stories. RSVP's teams of experts are always delighted to receive invitations to our member’s weddings, or just little updates such as receiving postcards, letters, photos and emails from members who have met partners through us. At our head office, we have an overflowing ‘Happy Board’ full of correspondence from satisfied members.

Recently, we received the below email from a member who is now in a relationship wishing to put his account on hold: 

"...Hi Michelle,
I'm e-mailing you to ask you to put my membership on hold because I have surprised myself by finding a girlfriend. I didn't meet her at RSVP, it was at my dancing group which I attend almost every Wednesday night.
However I want you to know that that if it wasn't for RSVP the relationship would probably never have happened. By attending RSVP events, reading your Matchmakers blog and being matched with some of your lovely lady members, I was able to regain my confidence and ask my girlfriend out on a date. That first date was two months ago and since then we have been seeing each other as much as possible.
I'm going to miss the RSVP events. They were always good and well organised. Well done to you and the rest of the RSVP team, you are all doing a fantastic job.
Bye for now David*..."

The other reason for us finding the answer difficult is that success is more than bringing couples together. On plenty of occasions, we have had so many members like David*, who have remarked upon how joining RSVP, speaking regularly to head office staff alongside attending RSVP singles events has guided and supported them as members, and has given them back confidence they had lost. Understandably, we know that dating can feel difficult after years of not dating; we do advise that the more you put in at RSVP the more you will get out of your membership.

So consequently, we don’t know the specifics and can’t give you an accurate estimate of how many couples we have directly bought together. Over the 27 years of RSVP there have been so many. But, more importantly, at RSVP, we are here to help you on your dating journey and to try and help you enjoy the route to ‘finding your one’.

And the most important thing I have learnt in the last year of working at RSVP is not to focus on the end goal too much, and to enjoy each step in the path on your way.

To find out more about how to start your dating journey with RSVP, provide us with a few details about yourself and one of our friendly team of experts will get in touch.

Friday, 29 March 2019

When true love becomes true crime

At the RSVP Headquarters, love and dating is always a topic of conversation; from personal experiences to the latest articles we have read, we love nothing more than analysing the facts and debating the topics. One particular thing that always gets us talking are TV programmes and series based around dating – and the latest hit from Netflix definitely caused quite a stir in the office.
Dirty John tells the creepy true-life dating story of a successful Orange County interior designer Debra Newell. After looking for love on dating apps following numerous failed marriages, Derbra stumbles upon the seemingly perfect John Meehan. Just two months after meeting him they exchange vows and it soon emerges how much of a mistake Debra has made in deciding to share her life with the terrifyingly calculated stranger John Meehan is a con-man, who has spent his life in and out of trouble with the law, tricking multiple women over the years, stealing money from them, threatening them and then disappearing to find his new victim.
For our expert Dating Consultants, stories of mistrust and betrayal from online dating are common. We regularly hear stories of disastrous dates and relationships with strangers that people have met online – but even they were shocked by this chillingly relatable story of love, manipulation and survival.
While we all have different opinions on the amount of trust she put into this stranger so early on and the speed of which the relationship developed, one thing we did all agree on was the shock and horror that this was based on true people and a true case, and the lengths that John would go to get what he wanted. After watching the series we all agreed that although there are merits to online dating by opening up your social circles to meet people who you may not have necessarily crossed paths with in everyday life, how well do you really know that stranger?
At RSVP Dating Agency and Singles Club, we pride ourselves on our ability to offer a safer alternative for dating. Every member that you meet on our hosted singles events or through our hand-picked introductions has been met by our expert Dating Consultants to ensure that they are who they say they are and that they are suitable to join our exclusive dating agency and singles club. Although no dating agency can promise you 100% safety, you can relax in the knowledge that we know who every member is and where they live.
If you want to find out more about our services and how we work, contact our friendly team.

Friday, 15 March 2019

RSVP’s New Events Calendar and What Members Say About Our Events

People often assume joining a dating agency and singles club to be a nerve-wracking experience. At RSVP Dating Agency and Singles Club, we understand this, and do everything we can to make it as much a pleasant journey for you as possible. From interviewing and meeting every member, to arranging great hosts for each event and, of course, having a helpful team in the office available 6 days a week to talk to. Recently a member emailed our events team with feedback from her first event:

‘It was my first event and I was a bit nervous to say the least. But Trevor, the host, was great and I really did have a nice time.’ 
At RSVP, the team put together a Singles Events Calendar each quarter, packed full of different events. Each calendar features delicious singles dinners, countryside singles walks, exclusive grand singles balls, driving experiences, fantastic museum tours... and much more to suit the tastes of each of our members. Naturally, we recommend attending as many different events as possible, because you are going to meet a wider selection of people. A member who recently joined, and attended her first event, which was Virtual Airspace Flight Simulator experience, said : 
‘Jacqui was a very good host and for my first event it was a good ice breaker’

We also had very pleasing feedback from someone else regarding their first event:

‘I had a lovely evening, everyone was so friendly and welcoming and Jo was a fantastic host. I'm very much looking forward to my next event...’ 

After each introduction and singles event, we strongly encourage our members to feedback to us, not only so we know what type of events they are enjoying, but so we know how they are finding the process. Two members recently took part in our Country Pursuits day (archery and clay pigeon shooting) and kindly provided us with feedback:

‘The venue was fantastic, really lovely people....Can’t wait to see it in the events calendar again, as will definitely book on.’ 

‘...there was certainly lots of laughter during the activities and at the lunch afterwards in the pub. I hadn’t been to that pub for years but as it is on my doorstep it may become a regular location, a good choice. 

We always suggest trying something new. The RSVP April - June singles events calendar contains a variety of different events; this time we have including things like Swimming with Sharks  and  DTV Shredder driving ... not the typical things that people do every day!

Whether you start by booking on to an RSVP singles dinner at a tasty fine-dine restaurant or prefer to jump in and book on to our RSVP exclusive Spring Singles Ball, we can guarantee that you will meet like-minded single people who are looking for their special someone. You are also likely to have a really good some of the members from last weekend:
‘... I enjoyed the evening.  Jo is a very gracious and amusing host, and the others were really nice people who I could easily become friends with. The venue was nice and the food very good.'

Loved the venue, very trendy, great decor, great choice of food, good service, would go again!’

To find out more about RSVP Singles Events and Introductions, simply provide us a few details on our provide a few details and one of our friendly team will get in touch.

Friday, 1 March 2019

The fatal attraction of swiping

At RSVP Dating Agency and Singles Club, we’re proud of our position of offering a safer alternative to online dating, but it comes as no joy at all to read the latest awful statistics.

According to the latest police figures, the number of Tinder-related police call-outs has more than doubled in the last three years. Police now receive more than 20 reports a week linked to the online dating app. In 2015, police had about 442 Tinder-related calls, and new figures indicate that this has now risen to 1,087 in 2018 – although as not every force provided a full set of figures, the true total is likely to be even higher.

At RSVP Dating Agency and Singles Club we can help you escape the swiping, to meet real, genuine people all with one goal in mind – to find the one. Whether you attend our hosted singles events or choose our hand-selected one to one introductions, our expert matchmakers and events team will ensure that you are meeting genuine and sincere people who have all been specially selected to join our private members club.

Although no dating agency can promise you 100% safety, with RSVP you can relax in the knowledge that our expert dating consultants have met and ID-checked every member to join our exclusive dating agency and singles club, regardless of the membership level they join at. We know who they are and where they live.

If you want to escape the swiping and find out more about our services and how we work, contact our friendly team today.

Friday, 15 February 2019

Valentine's Day doesn't have to be daunting

Valentine’s Day is one of those days that seem to bring fear and dread into the hearts of single people everywhere. But why?

As soon as Christmas is out of the way, cue the hearts, chocolates, flowers and oversized stuffed animals clogging up the aisles of supermarkets and shops across the country. So, what is it about this day that causes so much trepidation for single people?

At RSVP Dating Agency and Singles Club, our members no longer dread that day of over-indulgence. Instead, they embrace it and look at it as an opportunity. Every year, we host our Valentine’s Supper, a four-course private dining experience at a stunning venue – a chance for members to get dressed up for a lovely evening with other like-minded singletons. This year it was hosted at the spectacular backdrop of The George Hotel in Stamford.

One member said “I really enjoyed the meal at The George, always a great venue and guaranteed fab food. It wasn’t too in your face Cupid-focussed thank goodness and I liked the fact that after each course the gents moved around the table. Everyone was friendly and the conversations flowed easily.”

Just like our members, at the end of the evening, it felt like a group of friends had shared a great evening out. Singles events can seem daunting and maybe you think they would feel staged. Absolutely not. Our hosted singles events are designed to be as natural and relaxed as we can make them, from the outside looking in, it’s just a group of friends catching up and that is exactly how they feel.

If you would like to find out more about our singles events and how to become a member of our private members club, please contact one of our friendly team today.

Friday, 1 February 2019

Placeholder rings - what happened to the element of surprise in love and relationships?

Here at RSVP Dating Agency and Singles Club, we love a good debate on all things love; from our opinions on Reality TV Dating to the best and worst first date venues, but the recent announcement of Poundland selling engagement rings ready for Valentine’s Day has caused a bit of a stir in the office.

Poundland’s ‘bling ring’ is being sold in the run up to Valentine’s day to encourage couples to choose a permanent engagement ring together after the proposal has taken place. The stainless steel ring, with a variety of coloured gems to choose from, comes displayed in a plastic box with the slogan ‘because we promise they’ll want to choose their own’ written on the front.

Now I’m a traditionalist when it comes to romance, I believe that part of the magic of getting engaged is the element of surprise. From the timing, the setting, the actual moment and how it plays out to the engagement ring itself, it should all be a surprise. But it seems that I may be in a minority these days.

Can it really be that people have lost the element of going with the flow in favour of planning every minute detail of their lives? At RSVP, while we may not specialise in helping choose the perfect engagement ring or even a placeholder ring, our knowledgeable matchmakers can help you take control of your love life with their specialised advice and on-hand support.

RSVP’s experienced dating consultants meet every prospective member to get to know you and what you are looking for. With years of experience under their belt, they will take into account the things that are most important to you and open your eyes to the possibilities and potential matches that could be available to you – and also those that you are inadvertently excluding. They are there to advise and support you and tell you what you need to hear, not just what you want to hear in order to find that special person just for you.

You may have an idea of your perfect partner in mind, but, here at RSVP, we have seen two unlikely people just click so many times. Whether they met through one of our hosted singles events or an introduction based on our matchmakers’ expertise, you can’t deny chemistry. Sometimes, it just takes a little nudge from an experienced professional to open your eyes to the possibilities, both in life and in love. After all, life is for living; just as you can’t plan it down to the last detail, planning every nuance of your perfect partner is not the key to success, love and happiness.

If you follow our experienced matchmaker’s advice and support, who knows may be in a year or two from now you’ll be following suit with this new trend with your very own placeholder ring – or maybe even the real thing! To find out more about our services and the memberships that we can offer for you, please contact us here.