I am celebrating one year as part of the Head office team at RSVP Dating Agency and Singles Club and I have seen countless happy-ever-after stories. When I tell people what I do, they are fascinated and ask lots of questions. Here are six things that I have learned about love in the last year.
1) Members who join us with an
open mind and a positive attitude are the ones who typically meet someone
faster - and get more out of their introductions and our singles events. If you
are unhappy and resentful because you are not in a relationship, this attitude
won’t encourage people to want to be in a relationship with you.
2) People don’t always know
what they want until they find it. On occasions, we come across members
who have a shopping list of what they think they want. If on paper
their matches don’t tick every box, they don’t seem so interested. I will always
suggest that you meet as many people as you can and you will be
surprised that what you thought you wanted originally might change. At RSVP we
write your profile for you; we have been doing this for 25 years and we know
exactly what kind of profiles work well.
3) ‘I am a young 58’.
Believe me when I say we hear this multiple times every day. What does that
even mean? In theory, we live in a far more ageless society than ever before.
However, the whole age issue has stopped countless romances that could have
been wonderful. Members who won’t date anyone older than them are undoubtedly
shooting themselves in the foot. If you met someone in a pub, you wouldn’t know
their age. Yes, we will tell your introductions your real age and you
will know their real age. Would you prefer to be matched with
someone who is fit and active who happens to be 3 years older than you with a
young and modern attitude? Or would you rather see someone who is 8 years younger than you who isn’t
active and behaves older?
4) Dating is a numbers
game. The more people you meet, the more likely you are to find 'the one'. We want to help you find the right partner as quickly as
possible, so don’t put all of your eggs in one basket; it is quite normal to be
talking to different people and arranging a couple of different dates until you
both choose to become exclusive or you become intimate. Mixing introductions
with our singles events will increase your
chances of meeting a partner.
realistic expectations about a potential partner. Did you know the average
dress size for ladies in the UK is size 16 and the average height for men is
5ft 9in? So if you are a gentleman wanting a lady no bigger than a size 10, you'll inadventently exclude more than half of potential matches. Likewise if you are a lady looking for a man over 6 foot tall
with a full head of hair. Dating agencies are often the haunt of second timers; and if it is
a long time since you were previously single, you'll need to adjust your
expectations from what you expected previously when you were 25.
6) It only takes one
right person to make all of those bad dates seem like a lifetime ago. We
have had members go from ‘I am giving up and I’m not going to date for a
while’ to ‘this is the one and thank you’ within a week. If your current dating method is not working for you, get in touch and arrange an appointment with one of our expert dating consultants.