Thursday, 20 December 2018

Every Date is a Good Date or a Good Story

The other day, I heard someone say ‘every date is a good date or a good story’. This, on the whole, I think I agree with. At RSVP Dating Agency and Singles Club, we are keen for our members to simply get out there and date. Many of our members have said that, before joining, they hadn’t dated for years or haven’t got far with dating on their own. Some people worry about dating again; after all, the dating landscape has significantly changed in the last few years. That is where we are confident our services may help you get back out there!

As we have mentioned in previous posts, dating is undoubtedly a numbers game: the more people you meet, the more likely you are to find your one. When you join RSVP, all of your introductions are hand picked, either by our team of expert matchmakers or, for Platinum members, by your Dating PA. These matches are based on criteria agreed with you at interview, whilst taking in to account your personality type and preferences. We encourage you to meet as many people at possible, whether it is through introductions, or at our singles events. So, our advice to you is simple: relax, it's only a date; it isn’t signing your life away to someone! Say ‘yes’ to as many dates as possible. Whilst this may be daunting to you, perhaps it might be helpful to consider that the person you are dating could feel the same.

We always find that people with an open and relaxed attitude find someone faster. If we have a member who is unsure about going on a date introduction, we always remind them that the date could have many outcomes. Firstly, the best outcome would be you have met someone you really like and you could live happily ever after. Or the date could be a couple of hours out of your life with someone who isn’t suitable for you, but has a sibling or friend who is ideal!
Are you ready to get back out there and start dating in 2019? Simply provide a few details about yourself and one of our friendly team will get in touch to arrange a meeting with one of our Dating Consultants. 

Friday, 16 November 2018

Dating doesn't have to be risky business

At RSVP Dating Agency and Singles Club, we know how exciting it can be when you are starting to get to know someone new and eagerly anticipating that first date. But, it’s equally concerning that the person that you are going to meet may not turn out exactly as described. We’ve all heard the horror stories of those first dates that didn’t quite go to plan - where the person they were meeting wasn’t who they portrayed in their profile; or they turned out to be already in relationship and only looking for one thing; or where things have taken a sinister turn when the person in question put too much trust in a stranger. So why do so many of us put ourselves at risk for the sake of finding love?

RSVP's expert dating consultants hear these horror stories over and over again and it always makes us wonder why more people don’t opt for a safer way of finding love. Traditional methods of making sure people know where you are when heading out on a date and checking in regularly are good practice. There are also new apps for those going dating, with built-in features for safe zones, check-ins and panic alarms to keep your loved ones up-to-date and sure that you are safe. But, I can’t help but feel that we don’t put enough emphasis on personal safety.

I am all for safer dating and anything that assists us in staying safe in a world full of hidden dangers. In life, what’s free is generally free for a reason: there’s a trade-off. Free dating is free because there’s no-one checking the person you are meeting really is who they say they are; there’s no-one ensuring that the person you’re chatting to on a site isn’t a criminal in some far-off land. Much better in my book is to invest a little in your own safety up-front so you do not have the fear of what could go wrong on that eagerly-awaited first date. By using an accredited professional matchmaking service like RSVP, you can be safe in the knowledge that whether you are heading out on a date with your own hand-picked introduction or attending one of our hosted singles events, people you meet have been met personally by one of our expert dating consultants and that they have agreed to behave accordingly.

Why not let our expert dating consultants put your safety first and introduce you to other like-minded, single people who have been vetted and approved to join our exclusive dating agency and singles club with one goal in mind – to find the one. If you would like to find out more about our services and how we work, contact our friendly team today.

Friday, 19 October 2018

Does age really matter when it comes to relationships?

When it comes to dating, there are a few unspoken rules about what is and isn’t an acceptable age gap between partners. Dating someone who’s your age and a few years older or younger is seen as normal. Dating someone who is more than a decade younger than you, you’re seen as a cradle snatcher. Dating someone who’s considerably older than you, your actions are seen as less than innocent.  But despite all of the unspoken rules, does age really matter when it comes to relationships?
At RSVP Dating Agency and Singles Club, age is something that is discussed on a daily basis. When our experienced Dating Consultants meet with new members, they work with them to set out their criteria including the age ranges that they are looking for but they also know that at the end of the day, age is just a number.
We have so many success stories where members have set their age range for potential introductions but then attended one of our hosted singles events or received an introduction and proceeded to spark up a relationship with somebody who is older or younger than the age they specified – and most of the times they would never have been able to tell if we hadn’t informed them of the age.
Over our 26 years, we have learnt that age; just like height, dress size and distance, really is just a number. When it comes down to it, if everything else fits the bill do you really want to turn down the chance that they could be the one, all for the sake of a number?
At RSVP, we take a holistic approach to dating and look at each member and potential match on a whole rather than just focusing on specific details. Whilst age is a factor in the matching process, learning from experience our matchmakers know that the age of a person doesn’t just come down to how many years they’ve been alive, it comes down to your mental age, energy levels and health, your lifestyle and most importantly your outlook on life. At the end of the day if you meet someone who matches up to all of these, surely that is more important than dating someone who fits your age criteria but nothing else.
If you would like to find out more about our services and find out how our expert Dating Consultants can find the right match for you, then contact us today.

Friday, 5 October 2018

A Flash Back to The Early Days of RSVP

Not many people realise, when enquiring to join RSVP Singles Club and Introduction Agency, that we have been running since 1992. Over this time, the dating landscape has undoubtedly changed significantly. However, what people are seeking remains the same. It goes without saying, that they are looking for 'their one'.

RSVP is a well established, traditional Dating Agency, that has successfully built up a large database of lifetime members. We offer both specialist matchmaking and singles events. We have proudly helped create countless happy-ever-after stories; take a look at some of the many RSVP success stories.

Since 1992, we have seen plenty of dating agencies, dating apps and dating websites come and go. We want to be known for being the introduction agency that really cares about our members. We care if you were on your own last Christmas, New Years Eve or Valentine’s Day. We not only strive to help you find that special someone, we also hope to get you out and about and meeting other members.

We send out a seasonal quarterly singles events calendar to all our active members. In the early RSVP days, this was just a photocopied sheet of events each month. Obviously now, emailing is an important and efficient form of communication for us. Members can browse, view and book all of our upcoming singles events online. However, it is still important to us to produce a calendar for members to read through at their leisure and not have to rely on a wifi connection. The quarterly calendar we currently produce is now professionally printed and in colour - oh how times have changed! Over the years, RSVP singles events have become more frequent and we have learned the types of things our members enjoy doing. We also listen to members' suggestions on things to try, too, and often include these.

When RSVP was born, the internet was in its infancy and RSVP operated differently. However, the aims for both the members and the RSVP team of matchmakers remain the same. Benefit from all this experience yourself and get started with RSVP today

Thursday, 30 August 2018

Why you should say yes when we phone you promoting an RSVP event

RSVP Dating and Singles Events members often receive a friendly call from the team to try and persuade you to come out to our events because we know it is such a great way to meet potential new partners. For some of our members, the thought of it can be a bit scary initially. But in our experience, those that get the best from their membership are the ones that see events as a win:win situation – they may not meet the “one”  - but they are sure to have some fun!

Remember that seemingly unrelated and inconsequential encounters can have a great significance as you pursue your dreams. You might not meet the partner of your dreams at your first RSVP singles event - though there are plenty of RSVP success stories where that has happened - but you'll surely make some more friends and they may know someone who might be just right for you.

In today’s world of instant gratification and microwave popcorn, we need to take more time to focus on persistence while we remember that those things that happen easiest or fastest are often not the best.

So bear in mind, when you are attending RSVP singles events, that you should make an effort with how you come across to other members. Don't come straight from the gym or garden. Wear something relaxed but that shows that you have made an effort.

And keep the conversation light. Avoid politics, previous relationships or how you felt about matches you've met with RSVP or the length of your RSVP membership and refrain from any complaints and comments on how your life might be better.  When you are smiling and having a good time, you are much more attractive to others than when you are venting.

You want to make sure you are really focusing on the positive outcomes and do your best to push the negative out of your mind. The positive thoughts will make you much more receptive to experiencing positive feelings. Then you will start to relax and enjoy yourself.

Monday, 30 July 2018

Reality TV Dating - love it or hate it, it can actually teach us a lot about modern dating

In recent years, reality TV dating shows like Dating in the Dark, Dinner Date, First Dates, Love Island, Take Me Out and The Undateables, have taken the spotlight and caused quite a debate in the world of dating. Whether you love them or hate them, one thing you can be sure of is that they open up your eyes to the world of modern dating and just what lengths people will go to to find that special someone.

In the RSVP Dating Agency Head Office, there is a divide between the reality TV dating shows that we are not afraid to say we indulge in – some we favour more than others, but one thing we can agree on is that we have learnt some love lessons from our guilty addictions.

1.       You can’t force chemistry

When it comes to reality TV, some will fight hard for the spotlight – even faking or forcing chemistry that isn’t really there. But, as we tell our members, you can’t force that elusive chemistry – it’s either there or it isn’t.

2.       Don’t be so dramatic

All reality TV dating shows are dramatised on some level to get viewers talking and tuned in and that shouldn’t be something you look for in a real relationship. With any relationship you enter into, minimal drama should be the goal.

3.       Be yourself

In order to attract true love, you have to be true to yourself and to others. Imagine how a little white lie when you first meet can become so much more months down the line as the relationship develops.

4.       There’s more to love than attraction

So many of us confuse love with lust, but, as we’ve seen on numerous reality TV dating shows, the couple that gets together rarely stays together in the end. That’s probably because they both realised that yes, they like each other and are attracted to each other, but you need something much stronger than that to make it last.

Whichever reality TV dating show you indulge in, the scenes that we see on screen are not worlds away from the stories that we hear from prospective members who tell us about their disastrous dates in the hope that RSVP can offer them something different from what they have already experienced.

Here at RSVP Dating Agency and Singles Club, we take the hard work out of dating. We don’t need you to cook a fancy three-course meal to get picked for a date or spend eight weeks locked in a villa with 11 strangers; all we need is an hour of your time to find out about you, your hobbies and interests and what you are looking for in a partner, and our expert matchmakers can handle the rest.

With two alternative routes on offer – RSVP singles events and the RSVP matchmaking service, we can double your chances of finding that someone special. If your current dating method is not working for you and you want to try something new, why not get in touch and arrange an appointment with one of our expert dating consultants?

Wednesday, 4 July 2018

Eight More Things I Have Learnt Will Help You Find Love

Following on from my previous post about 6 things I have learnt about love from my year at working at RSVP dating agency head office, here are a further 8 things I have learnt that will improve your chances of meeting the right person.

1) Don’t put too much importance on one date with someone; think of it as just a date or a meeting. Over-thinking things or letting your imagination run away with you is never going to be helpful. If the date doesn’t go well, don’t stop and replay it in your head; move on to the next one.

2) Do dress up and make an effort on dates. When our Dating Consultants meet prospective RSVP members, we hear them say that they are fed up of the other party not putting the effort in any more. I am not saying you need to dress up to the nines, but it is common sense to look clean and presentable on dates. Leave football shirts, trainers, scruffy jeans and dirty clothes in the wardrobe, along with that cliche 'they'll have to love me for what I am'.

3) Relax. Nerves are normal, particularly on your first date or first singles event. Just remember, RSVP is a traditional matchmaking agency; this is not online dating! All of our members have been met by our Dating Consultants and everyone is who we say they are, without exception. At RSVP, we suggest considering different activities for a date, not just the typical drinks at the pub. Our RSVP single events are a less nerve-wracking way of new meeting people, eg. guided tours, walks, dinners, adrenalin activities.
4) If in doubt after a first date, go on a second date. A first date may feel tough and nerves can get in the way. At a second date, you can relax and get to know each other better and this may help you decide whether to take it further. Two RSVP members who have recently got together are very grateful that we encouraged them to have a second date, despite having reservations after the first. 

5) At RSVP, we write bespoke profiles for all of our Gold and Platinum members. These are based what our experienced dating consultant learned about you at your meeting before joining. Trust us on this. We really are the experts on knowing exactly what to say in order to optimise your chances of generating lots of matches. We'll encourage you to resist putting in obscure details and references or strong opinions that others might not understand; it's so easy unknowingly to put off potential matches. Unfortunately we have seen this happen on a couple of occasions, when otherwise it could have been a perfect match.

6) You don't have to have identical hobbies and interests to be a great match. Of course, it is good to have common ground, but you don't have to both like skiing or musicals for it to be a good introduction. To me, and I am sure to many others, what is more important is if the same things make you laugh, if you have the same family values or that you are on the same page emotionally.

7) Make friends at RSVP. I have seen so many friendships formed with different RSVP members at RSVP singles events, which is great. Occasionally we hear things along the lines of ‘I already have friends, so I don’t want to go to events if there isn’t someone for me’. I disagree with this:

  • Firstly, you might find someone at RSVP singles events who you are attracted to unexpectedly.
  • Secondly, you could make friends with other members at events; you can never have too many friends! Within new friendship circles, you can get introduced to a wider audience. 
  • Thirdly, some food for thought: a lady joined us who made a female friend at an RSVP singles dinner. She was invited to her birthday BBQ. There she was introduced to Birthday Girl’s brother. They are now married! 

8) Be open to trying new things and different places. Whilst it may be daunting at first, if you are single and looking for a partner, now is the time to break out of a rut and try something new. Opening doors to new experiences, hobbies or opinions outside your bubble will, without doubt, increase your chances of meeting someone new.

Tuesday, 5 June 2018

Six Things that I Have Learnt About Love After a Year Working at RSVP

I am celebrating one year as part of the Head office team at RSVP Dating Agency and Singles Club and I have seen countless happy-ever-after stories. When I tell people what I do, they are fascinated and ask lots of questions. Here are six things that I have learned about love in the last year.

1) Members who join us with an open mind and a positive attitude are the ones who typically meet someone faster - and get more out of their introductions and our singles events. If you are unhappy and resentful because you are not in a relationship, this attitude won’t encourage people to want to be in a relationship with you.

2) People don’t always know what they want until they find it. On occasions, we come across members who have a shopping list of what they think they want. If on paper their matches don’t tick every box, they don’t seem so interested. I will always suggest that you meet as many people as you can and you will be surprised that what you thought you wanted originally might change. At RSVP we write your profile for you; we have been doing this for 25 years and we know exactly what kind of profiles work well.

3)  ‘I am a young  58’. Believe me when I say we hear this multiple times every day. What does that even mean? In theory, we live in a far more ageless society than ever before. However, the whole age issue has stopped countless romances that could have been wonderful. Members who won’t date anyone older than them are undoubtedly shooting themselves in the foot. If you met someone in a pub, you wouldn’t know their age. Yes, we will tell your introductions your real age and you will know their real age. Would you prefer to be matched with someone who is fit and active who happens to be 3 years older than you with a young and modern attitude? Or would you rather see someone who is 8 years younger than you who isn’t active and behaves older?

4) Dating is a numbers game. The more people you meet, the more likely you are to find 'the one'. We want to help you find the right partner as quickly as possible, so don’t put all of your eggs in one basket; it is quite normal to be talking to different people and arranging a couple of different dates until you both choose to become exclusive or you become intimate. Mixing introductions with our singles events will increase your chances of meeting a partner.

5) Have realistic expectations about a potential partner. Did you know the average dress size for ladies in the UK is size 16 and the average height for men is 5ft 9in? So if you are a gentleman wanting a lady no bigger than a size 10, you'll inadventently exclude more than half of potential matches. Likewise if you are a lady looking for a man over 6 foot tall with a full head of hair. Dating agencies are often the haunt of second timers; and if it is a long time since you were previously single, you'll need to adjust your expectations from what you expected previously when you were 25.

6) It only takes one right person to make all of those bad dates seem like a lifetime ago. We have had members go from ‘I am giving up and I’m not going to date for a while’ to ‘this is the one and thank you’ within a week. If your current dating method is not working for you,  get in touch and arrange an appointment with one of our expert dating consultants.

Thursday, 5 April 2018

More Online Dating Fraud

We have all heard the scare stories in the media of the perils of meeting people on line. With, seemingly every month, another new app or dating website popping up, there really is a lot of choice out there. But is one better than the other and do they all come with the same warnings? Here at RSVP Dating Agency and Singles Club we meet real people, in real time. We interview everyone and they often tell us of their online dating horror stories.

One lady we interviewed had met a guy on a popular, free website and spent months – yes, months – corresponding with him via email. We’ll call him Bernard. As the messages flew back and forth the emotional connection (and the time invested) grew. After Bernard sent some images of himself, a well-meaning friend of our prospective client used Google’s Reverse Image Search to discover that Bernard was, in real life, a dancer in New York and actually not residing locally as she first thought. When she asked him why, Bernard closed his email account and she never heard from him again. She was lucky. She only wasted months of her time.

Another gentleman we interviewed met a girl on line and spoke to her on the telephone. After no response to his texts for a couple of days, she eventually made contact asking for £2,000, stating that she was stranded abroad after having her bag supposedly stolen. Thankfully, he declined her kind offer .... but will the next chap she approaches be so savvy?

As an industry leader in dating for over 25 years, RSVP Dating Agency and Singles Club is often asked to comment about national news stories. Michelle recently offered BBC Radio Leicester listeners advice on online dating fraud.

If you value your confidentiality, your time, your wealth and, ultimately, your safety, contact RSVP to arrange an interview with one of our dedicated Dating Consultants and let the professionals find you love.

Tuesday, 13 March 2018

Love will never go out of style - only the way we find it will change

If there is one thing we can guarantee at RSVP Dating Agency and Singles Club, it is that love will never go out of style. The desire to couple-up is still at the forefront of people’s minds and will continue to magnify, bringing more relationship-orientated people to the dating pool.

Whether you love them or hate them, in recent years we have seen a surge in the number of online dating apps and while online dating will continue to make it easy for people to meet others, it seems that people we see every day are missing the authenticity of real-life encounters.

As the technology on our smartphones continues to develop, so will online dating apps. There are already apps on the market that have a video chat option and dating experts believe that this will only continue to expand throughout the market in 2018.

It's been said that online dating can be a full-time job, so, as people grow more and more fatigued by online encounters, the idea of face-to-face dating will expand past our smartphones and matchmaking will get trendy again, along with the idea of shared experiences for singles - events, tours, walks, dinners - all things that we specialise in at RSVP.

Being a traditional dating agency, we constantly hear from our members about how fed up they are with online dating and how impersonal and disconnected it feels. At RSVP, our experienced Dating Consultants take into account the things that are most important to you and open your eyes to the possibilities and potential matches that could be available to you. They are there to advise and support you every step of your dating journey and put the personal touch back into dating.

For those looking to meet someone in a more natural environment, our hosted singles events allow people to meet in a group setting, giving a more relaxed approach to dating. With activities, dinners, suppers, tours and our infamous singles balls, we consider a variety of different tastes, budgets, lifestyles and locations when creating our quarterly events calendar and host many superb events every week!

Over our 25 years of being established, RSVP’s expert matchmaking and events teams have worked with a huge variety of people and, whether they are male or female, young or old, they all have one thing in common: they are all actively looking to find someone to share their life with away from the games that blight modern dating.

If you want to find out more about our services and the memberships on offer, please contact RSVP here.

Thursday, 1 March 2018

Don't make the first date an interview.

I’ve been getting a lot of feedback from RSVP dating members lately, who decide not to go on a second date because they feel they are being interviewed when they first meet someone. I am sure that no-one sets out to interrogate their match on a first meeting and there can be many reasons why this happens. Often members want to appear confident and in control of the situation, which leads them to ask lots of questions. Another reason can be that you have spent a lot of time building up the person in your mind and you are genuinely interested in finding out more in the excitement of a first meeting.  Whatever the reason, if you are aware that this can be off-putting, you can take steps to avoid this. Here are few tips.
  1. Be realistic about how much information you can expect to find out about your date on a first meeting.  Don’t try and work out if this is “the one”.  You just need to know, 'would I enjoy meeting this person again?'. Take things one step at a time.
  2. It’s important to appear interested in your date, so you do want to ask some questions. Just make sure they are fairly light-hearted. Avoid questions that are too deep or personal; neither of you should be talking about ex-partners on a first meeting. Or whether you want children. Or whether you want to get married (again). Have a look at this article to give you some ideas.
  3. Once you have asked your questions, listen to what they are saying! There’s nothing worse than being asked to talk about yourself and then not listened to once you start answering the question.
  4. Try and be open-minded about what you are hearing. It’s very rare for any two partners to agree on everything or have identical hobbies and interests, plus sometimes opposites attract, so give the person a fair chance.
  5. Whilst you do want to hear about the other person, be prepared to talk a little about yourself. I often hear people say that you have two ears and one mouth, so you should think about a ratio of about 2:1 listening: talking.

Friday, 12 January 2018

Obama Talks about The Value of Meeting Face to Face

At RSVP Head Office, we have had a lot of discussion about Prince Harry's recent interview with President Obama for Radio 4’s Today program. It turns out we are not the only ones, this has become one of the most talked about interviews for months. Throughout the interview they talked about a variety of different current topics that resonate well with dating and our members at RSVP.

Image of Prince Harry by Suzanne Plunkett, CC BY 2.0
The first thing that struck a chord with us was when Obama discussed the positives and negatives of the internet and social media, he stated "One of the dangers of the internet is that people can have entirely different realities. They can be cocooned in information that reinforces their current biases”.

This is one of the reasons why RSVP Dating Agency and Singles club don't operate online like other agencies and dating websites; everything is done in house with a team of specifically trained people who learn and have a more sensitive understanding of our members than that of a computer operated database which churns out basic results.
Furthermore Obama elaborated "’s important for them to get offline, meet in a pub, meet in a place of worship, meet in a neighbourhood and get to know each other, because the truth is that on the internet everything is simplified". At RSVP we are huge believers in getting out there and taking chances with people; this could be a simple coffee with an introduction or attending one of our fabulous singles events. We often have members say things like 'I wish I joined years ago, I am so much happier now I am getting out and meeting new people’.
Returning back to the interview, another thing that is worth noting is when Obama said;  “When you meet people face-to-face, it turns out they’re complicated. There may be somebody who you think is diametrically opposed to you when it comes to their political views, but you root for the same sports team. Or you notice that they’re really good parents. You find areas of common ground because you see that things aren’t as simple as had been portrayed in whatever chatroom you’d been in".

There have been plenty of similar instances at RSVP when we send out a profile of one member to another. They are a good match, but then the member may phone up us up because they see something on the profile that they don’t like, fixating on one small point that they disagree with or don’t see a commonality. We always say that a profile is a tiny slice of the overall picture of who someone is. Having different hobbies to yourself or different religion or ethnicity doesn’t matter at all when you actually meet them face to face.

To open up new doors and to kick start your 2018 into a more socially-filled 'getting out there' year, get in touch with our team at RSVP and we'll organise a meeting with one of our friendly Dating Consultants.