Friday, 24 May 2019

Look For a New Love, Not a Replacement

Dating after you have met ‘your one’ or ‘the one’ who turned out not to be the one, is undoubtedly a challenge and something we understand very well at RSVP Dating Agency and Singles Club. Everyone has a dating history and is shaped by past experience. On occasions, RSVP Dating Consultants hear prospective members describing their previous partner in a lot of detail or even show us photos of them, then requesting us to look for someone with either physical attributes or character traits that their previous partner possessed. It can be very difficult to move on from an ex, and it is natural to want to take the best parts of them with you.  However, this could be holding you back from seeing a new person’s personality and discovering their individual quirks. If you put an ex-partner on a pedestal and measure everyone else up to them, it is time to refresh your attitude and open your eyes a little wider.

At RSVP, we offer different membership levels to suit everyone. wanting to go offline dating If you need extra help in your dating journey, especially if you are trying to get over someone, our Platinum introduction agency membership will provide you with the one-to-one support with your own Dating PA. At RSVP, we meet all of our members and get to know them well. The Head Office team are there to help you on your dating journey.

When dating, it is important to think of a new person you've met as a person in their own right. It goes without saying that constant comparison to an ex could put a real strain on a new relationship. I am not suggesting forgetting the good memories of someone who was dear to you when there was once a lot of love; however, it is crucial to appreciate the differences between people and begin a new love interest as a completely new and separate chapter in your life. Learn to enjoy discovering this new person; don’t assume that they know your preferences for how you have your coffee or don’t remember that TV show that you and your ex-partner could quote back to each other. They may not immediately slot into your life and routine the way a previous partner did, but they can bring you joy and you can still enjoy a different kind of relationship. How about building new memories and traditions? Open yourself up to their life and the possibilities it could bring you both.

Don’t let your past hold your future hostage. If you are interested in starting journey with us at RSVP Dating Agency and Singles Club simply provide us with some of your details and a member of our friendly team will be in touch.

Wednesday, 17 April 2019

How Successful is RSVP?

At RSVP Dating Agency and Singles Club, we are frequently asked what our ‘success rate’ is by prospective members. What a difficult question to answer and it doesn’t get easier in our 27 years of business. This completely depends on how you define success. It isn’t as simple as asking a driving instructor what their pass rate is. Typically, people who are enquiring to join a Dating Agency ask something along the lines of one of the below:
-How many marriages are you responsible for?

-How many couples have got together through RSVP singles events or Introductions?

-How many RSVP couples have started a family?

So why is it so difficult to answer those questions?

Firstly, whilst we always love to hear back from members who have met their partner through us, they don’t always tell us. However, some members do keep in touch and share their success stories. RSVP's teams of experts are always delighted to receive invitations to our member’s weddings, or just little updates such as receiving postcards, letters, photos and emails from members who have met partners through us. At our head office, we have an overflowing ‘Happy Board’ full of correspondence from satisfied members.

Recently, we received the below email from a member who is now in a relationship wishing to put his account on hold: 

"...Hi Michelle,
I'm e-mailing you to ask you to put my membership on hold because I have surprised myself by finding a girlfriend. I didn't meet her at RSVP, it was at my dancing group which I attend almost every Wednesday night.
However I want you to know that that if it wasn't for RSVP the relationship would probably never have happened. By attending RSVP events, reading your Matchmakers blog and being matched with some of your lovely lady members, I was able to regain my confidence and ask my girlfriend out on a date. That first date was two months ago and since then we have been seeing each other as much as possible.
I'm going to miss the RSVP events. They were always good and well organised. Well done to you and the rest of the RSVP team, you are all doing a fantastic job.
Bye for now David*..."

The other reason for us finding the answer difficult is that success is more than bringing couples together. On plenty of occasions, we have had so many members like David*, who have remarked upon how joining RSVP, speaking regularly to head office staff alongside attending RSVP singles events has guided and supported them as members, and has given them back confidence they had lost. Understandably, we know that dating can feel difficult after years of not dating; we do advise that the more you put in at RSVP the more you will get out of your membership.

So consequently, we don’t know the specifics and can’t give you an accurate estimate of how many couples we have directly bought together. Over the 27 years of RSVP there have been so many. But, more importantly, at RSVP, we are here to help you on your dating journey and to try and help you enjoy the route to ‘finding your one’.

And the most important thing I have learnt in the last year of working at RSVP is not to focus on the end goal too much, and to enjoy each step in the path on your way.

To find out more about how to start your dating journey with RSVP, provide us with a few details about yourself and one of our friendly team of experts will get in touch.

Friday, 29 March 2019

When true love becomes true crime

At the RSVP Headquarters, love and dating is always a topic of conversation; from personal experiences to the latest articles we have read, we love nothing more than analysing the facts and debating the topics. One particular thing that always gets us talking are TV programmes and series based around dating – and the latest hit from Netflix definitely caused quite a stir in the office.
Dirty John tells the creepy true-life dating story of a successful Orange County interior designer Debra Newell. After looking for love on dating apps following numerous failed marriages, Derbra stumbles upon the seemingly perfect John Meehan. Just two months after meeting him they exchange vows and it soon emerges how much of a mistake Debra has made in deciding to share her life with the terrifyingly calculated stranger John Meehan is a con-man, who has spent his life in and out of trouble with the law, tricking multiple women over the years, stealing money from them, threatening them and then disappearing to find his new victim.
For our expert Dating Consultants, stories of mistrust and betrayal from online dating are common. We regularly hear stories of disastrous dates and relationships with strangers that people have met online – but even they were shocked by this chillingly relatable story of love, manipulation and survival.
While we all have different opinions on the amount of trust she put into this stranger so early on and the speed of which the relationship developed, one thing we did all agree on was the shock and horror that this was based on true people and a true case, and the lengths that John would go to get what he wanted. After watching the series we all agreed that although there are merits to online dating by opening up your social circles to meet people who you may not have necessarily crossed paths with in everyday life, how well do you really know that stranger?
At RSVP Dating Agency and Singles Club, we pride ourselves on our ability to offer a safer alternative for dating. Every member that you meet on our hosted singles events or through our hand-picked introductions has been met by our expert Dating Consultants to ensure that they are who they say they are and that they are suitable to join our exclusive dating agency and singles club. Although no dating agency can promise you 100% safety, you can relax in the knowledge that we know who every member is and where they live.
If you want to find out more about our services and how we work, contact our friendly team.

Friday, 15 March 2019

RSVP’s New Events Calendar and What Members Say About Our Events

People often assume joining a dating agency and singles club to be a nerve-wracking experience. At RSVP Dating Agency and Singles Club, we understand this, and do everything we can to make it as much a pleasant journey for you as possible. From interviewing and meeting every member, to arranging great hosts for each event and, of course, having a helpful team in the office available 6 days a week to talk to. Recently a member emailed our events team with feedback from her first event:

‘It was my first event and I was a bit nervous to say the least. But Trevor, the host, was great and I really did have a nice time.’ 
At RSVP, the team put together a Singles Events Calendar each quarter, packed full of different events. Each calendar features delicious singles dinners, countryside singles walks, exclusive grand singles balls, driving experiences, fantastic museum tours... and much more to suit the tastes of each of our members. Naturally, we recommend attending as many different events as possible, because you are going to meet a wider selection of people. A member who recently joined, and attended her first event, which was Virtual Airspace Flight Simulator experience, said : 
‘Jacqui was a very good host and for my first event it was a good ice breaker’

We also had very pleasing feedback from someone else regarding their first event:

‘I had a lovely evening, everyone was so friendly and welcoming and Jo was a fantastic host. I'm very much looking forward to my next event...’ 

After each introduction and singles event, we strongly encourage our members to feedback to us, not only so we know what type of events they are enjoying, but so we know how they are finding the process. Two members recently took part in our Country Pursuits day (archery and clay pigeon shooting) and kindly provided us with feedback:

‘The venue was fantastic, really lovely people....Can’t wait to see it in the events calendar again, as will definitely book on.’ 

‘...there was certainly lots of laughter during the activities and at the lunch afterwards in the pub. I hadn’t been to that pub for years but as it is on my doorstep it may become a regular location, a good choice. 

We always suggest trying something new. The RSVP April - June singles events calendar contains a variety of different events; this time we have including things like Swimming with Sharks  and  DTV Shredder driving ... not the typical things that people do every day!

Whether you start by booking on to an RSVP singles dinner at a tasty fine-dine restaurant or prefer to jump in and book on to our RSVP exclusive Spring Singles Ball, we can guarantee that you will meet like-minded single people who are looking for their special someone. You are also likely to have a really good some of the members from last weekend:
‘... I enjoyed the evening.  Jo is a very gracious and amusing host, and the others were really nice people who I could easily become friends with. The venue was nice and the food very good.'

Loved the venue, very trendy, great decor, great choice of food, good service, would go again!’

To find out more about RSVP Singles Events and Introductions, simply provide us a few details on our provide a few details and one of our friendly team will get in touch.

Friday, 1 March 2019

The fatal attraction of swiping

At RSVP Dating Agency and Singles Club, we’re proud of our position of offering a safer alternative to online dating, but it comes as no joy at all to read the latest awful statistics.

According to the latest police figures, the number of Tinder-related police call-outs has more than doubled in the last three years. Police now receive more than 20 reports a week linked to the online dating app. In 2015, police had about 442 Tinder-related calls, and new figures indicate that this has now risen to 1,087 in 2018 – although as not every force provided a full set of figures, the true total is likely to be even higher.

At RSVP Dating Agency and Singles Club we can help you escape the swiping, to meet real, genuine people all with one goal in mind – to find the one. Whether you attend our hosted singles events or choose our hand-selected one to one introductions, our expert matchmakers and events team will ensure that you are meeting genuine and sincere people who have all been specially selected to join our private members club.

Although no dating agency can promise you 100% safety, with RSVP you can relax in the knowledge that our expert dating consultants have met and ID-checked every member to join our exclusive dating agency and singles club, regardless of the membership level they join at. We know who they are and where they live.

If you want to escape the swiping and find out more about our services and how we work, contact our friendly team today.

Friday, 15 February 2019

Valentine's Day doesn't have to be daunting

Valentine’s Day is one of those days that seem to bring fear and dread into the hearts of single people everywhere. But why?

As soon as Christmas is out of the way, cue the hearts, chocolates, flowers and oversized stuffed animals clogging up the aisles of supermarkets and shops across the country. So, what is it about this day that causes so much trepidation for single people?

At RSVP Dating Agency and Singles Club, our members no longer dread that day of over-indulgence. Instead, they embrace it and look at it as an opportunity. Every year, we host our Valentine’s Supper, a four-course private dining experience at a stunning venue – a chance for members to get dressed up for a lovely evening with other like-minded singletons. This year it was hosted at the spectacular backdrop of The George Hotel in Stamford.

One member said “I really enjoyed the meal at The George, always a great venue and guaranteed fab food. It wasn’t too in your face Cupid-focussed thank goodness and I liked the fact that after each course the gents moved around the table. Everyone was friendly and the conversations flowed easily.”

Just like our members, at the end of the evening, it felt like a group of friends had shared a great evening out. Singles events can seem daunting and maybe you think they would feel staged. Absolutely not. Our hosted singles events are designed to be as natural and relaxed as we can make them, from the outside looking in, it’s just a group of friends catching up and that is exactly how they feel.

If you would like to find out more about our singles events and how to become a member of our private members club, please contact one of our friendly team today.

Friday, 1 February 2019

Placeholder rings - what happened to the element of surprise in love and relationships?

Here at RSVP Dating Agency and Singles Club, we love a good debate on all things love; from our opinions on Reality TV Dating to the best and worst first date venues, but the recent announcement of Poundland selling engagement rings ready for Valentine’s Day has caused a bit of a stir in the office.

Poundland’s ‘bling ring’ is being sold in the run up to Valentine’s day to encourage couples to choose a permanent engagement ring together after the proposal has taken place. The stainless steel ring, with a variety of coloured gems to choose from, comes displayed in a plastic box with the slogan ‘because we promise they’ll want to choose their own’ written on the front.

Now I’m a traditionalist when it comes to romance, I believe that part of the magic of getting engaged is the element of surprise. From the timing, the setting, the actual moment and how it plays out to the engagement ring itself, it should all be a surprise. But it seems that I may be in a minority these days.

Can it really be that people have lost the element of going with the flow in favour of planning every minute detail of their lives? At RSVP, while we may not specialise in helping choose the perfect engagement ring or even a placeholder ring, our knowledgeable matchmakers can help you take control of your love life with their specialised advice and on-hand support.

RSVP’s experienced dating consultants meet every prospective member to get to know you and what you are looking for. With years of experience under their belt, they will take into account the things that are most important to you and open your eyes to the possibilities and potential matches that could be available to you – and also those that you are inadvertently excluding. They are there to advise and support you and tell you what you need to hear, not just what you want to hear in order to find that special person just for you.

You may have an idea of your perfect partner in mind, but, here at RSVP, we have seen two unlikely people just click so many times. Whether they met through one of our hosted singles events or an introduction based on our matchmakers’ expertise, you can’t deny chemistry. Sometimes, it just takes a little nudge from an experienced professional to open your eyes to the possibilities, both in life and in love. After all, life is for living; just as you can’t plan it down to the last detail, planning every nuance of your perfect partner is not the key to success, love and happiness.

If you follow our experienced matchmaker’s advice and support, who knows may be in a year or two from now you’ll be following suit with this new trend with your very own placeholder ring – or maybe even the real thing! To find out more about our services and the memberships that we can offer for you, please contact us here.

Friday, 18 January 2019

Ditch your dating bad habits to find love this year

Here at RSVP Dating agency and singles club, one of the things that we often hear from our many success stories is that, aside from the events or the introductions where they met their partner, the biggest takeaway for them was the advice and support that they received from our experienced team of matchmakers.

Like all parts of life, when it comes to dating and developing relationships we can develop bad habits and, most of the time, we don’t even realise that we have fallen into these, until we take the time to sit down and honestly look at how we conduct ourselves on dates or the issue is raised constructively by a third party, such as our knowledgeable matchmakers.

Why not start 2019 off with a new outlook on love and dating and ditch the 6 most common dating bad habits that people fall into?

1.       Being too hard on yourself

It is human nature to indulge a little negative self-talk every once in a while, but, when it comes to dating, it can really hinder the experience for both yourself and your date. When the capacity for negative self-talk becomes too harsh and critical, it blocks you from being able to relax and enjoy the dating experience; become so self-conscious that it is impossible for your date to see the real you behind all the tension and anxiety. You become convinced that as soon as your date sees the real you, they will run for the hills. But what you don’t realise is that negative self-talk is putting up barriers and blocking your date from seeing all the things that make you you. Whilst anxiety before a date is natural, don’t let the negative self-talk stop you from shining through and enjoying the moment.

2.       Having unrealistic expectations of your date

Let’s face it, from the moment you read the profile of your match, you begin to construct a mental picture of what they are going to be like. But the issue arises when you live for the fantasy of that person rather than the reality and you start daydreaming about the first meeting, the first kiss and even the wedding. If you find yourself rereading every message looking for information that supports the fantasy you have created, I can guarantee that when you finally meet that person in real life, you are going to be disappointed, not because they are a bad match, but because the fantasy person that you have built up in your mind is not real and no person, no matter how amazing, will be able to measure up. Instead, be open-minded; don’t read something into everything and, who knows, you might be pleasantly surprised.

3.       Trying to be something you are not

When a member joins RSVP dating agency, often their number one reason is because they have tried other dating methods and formed relationships that have ultimately been forged on lies. People often employ slight exaggerations of the truth and little white because they do not believe they are enough as they are. They believe they’re harmless and will never be discovered. But the truth always has a way of coming out. The little white lies may impress in the beginning, but all you are doing is stopping the person you are dating from seeing the real you. No healthy long-term relationship can survive on a foundation of dishonesty. Do you really want to spend the next fifty years of your life pretending to be someone you’re not to impress a date? Or would you rather be yourself and find someone who likes you for you?

4.       Using dates as a form of therapy

Dating can be tough; there’s no denying that, particularly if it has come as a result of some emotional pain. Finding yourself in a relaxed environment with someone who seems caring, gentle and kind can prompt the floodgates to open for some people. However, just as you don’t want to take any baggage into a new relationship, you don’t want to open the floodgates on a date;  it leads the other person to feel more like a counsellor than a potential partner and can stop things from developing further, as they feel you are not ready.

5.       Complaining

People with a positive and enthusiastic attitude towards life are more attractive and, even though things may go wrong, they don’t usually let them ruin their day. Some people, however, have developed the habit of complaining and will complain about everything from the traffic to the service and the food and they may not even be aware that they are doing it. If you find yourself complaining a lot, make a conscious effort to focus on the positive and the things that you are grateful for. It will make you a happier person and a better date.

6.       Bad manners

Make a habit of having good manners in all aspects of dating - reply to correspondence; thank someone for a date even if you don’t want to see them again; if you have made the decision to not take it any further, let them know and wish them all the best for their dating journey. Most importantly, be civil and courteous to all people.

By changing some of these most common dating bad habits you will find that, rather than feeling despondent and exasperated with your dating journey, you will start to relax and enjoy the experiences it brings about.

If reading this you have found yourself recognising some of the traits in you and you want to ditch the bad habits to find love this year, why not meet with one of our experienced dating consultants to find out more about how we can help? Contact one of our lovely team today to find out more.

Friday, 4 January 2019

2019 - Is A 'New You' Really Needed?

Many people make New Year’s resolutions, such as to lose weight, join the gym, learn a new language, or to find a partner...everybody’s lists vary. We are inundated with promises of a 'new year and new you' by advertisements on television, through to our social media feeds and others around us, with plenty of promises that ‘2019 will be your year’. I definitely believe it can be, if you choose to go about it the right way!

At Dating Agency and Singles Club RSVP, we always have an influx of people enquiring to join over Christmas and New Year. Whilst it is always good to see a new calendar year as time for a fresh start and be inspired to set new goals, it goes without saying that you have to be realistic to make it past January. Signing up for the gym with the view to going 3 times a week won’t make you lose 2 stone in 3 months, if you don’t actually attend the gym. A New Year’s resolution isn’t completed by one act or impulse; you have to continually put the effort in to see the results. The same thing can be said for dating.

What we would suggest is to start small and to be kind to yourself along the way. If 2019 is the year you want to kick start your dating journey, joining RSVP is a great first step. In addition to the many benefits of our dating agency, there are different membership packages you can choose from. For example, you could become a Singles Events member and aim for one of our fabulous singles events each week. Whilst we are happy for you to attend more, we believe it is good to start small and build yourself up. Or, if you are looking for Introductions and need more support on your dating journey, we would recommend our Platinum Introduction Agency membership, where you have your very own Dating PA who can support you through your dating journey, making it easier for you to succeed.

Finally, there are two things everyone can do that often get overlooked when dating.
  1. A positive and open-minded attitude will help you in your dating journey the most. Not only will it offer more opportunities; it can help you enjoy yourself more along the way.
  2. Be realistic in who you are, what you have to offer, what your expectations are and how you can move forward.
To get your 2019 dating journey under way, simply provide a few details about yourself and someone from our friendly team will give you a call.