At Dating Agency RSVP, we were recently asked an interesting question, which we thought best to share with our followers. Why do men flirt in the workplace?
Some common thoughts are that men try to flirt their way
to the top! Psychologists who have studied this disagree, finding men who flirt
at work actually lack in sensitivity. This would suggest there is no real
benefit in flirting, to advance any career progression. Low job satisfaction is
another possibility, if lacking in motivation or easily distracted, the chance
to flirt will give him something fun to do, adding a bit of excitement to what
so far has been yet another unsatisfying day.
This possible theory was investigated by business
psychologists Chadi Moussa and Adrian Banks from the University of Surrey,
through a questionnaire that measured flirting behaviours at work, job
satisfaction, self reported job performance, and personality. Said Chadi: “Previous research has shown that people flirt for various reasons,
which include increasing their self-esteem, fun and romance. If men are feeling
unsatisfied in their roles, then they may resort to flirting to keep them
entertained and this would partially explain the negative relationship. While
flirting can have benefits, excessive flirting at work may be a sign that
you’re unsatisfied with your job or simply bored. These findings contradict
popular notions that flirting at work can make employees mores satisfied or
So what reasons are there to explain the flirtatious male
in the workplace? One thing that has crossed our mind is, perhaps a lack in
confidence or low self esteem around women is actually what causes men to go
into “flirt mode”, therefore deflecting away from any confidence issues that
arise when placed in difficult situations.
RSVP’s dating coach Stephanie Robinson regularly holds
personal coaching sessions to help build the confidence of people who struggle
in these scenarios.
Booking a session with Steph would certainly help both
your confidence and self-esteem. Then afterwards why not test it out the best
possible way, by booking on a selection of RSVP singles events?