Finding love in Autumn

The bitter cold weather is coming, we are digging out our woolly jumpers and the leaves on the trees are changing colour. This can only mean one thing; Autumn is coming, and it's coming quickly.

Here at singles club and dating agency RSVP, we think that autumn is a perfect time of year to meet someone new, maybe at one of our singles events or through one of our hand-selected matches.

Coffee dates make classical first date options, and it means you will warm up in the mean time. It's less pressure than an intimate dinner, and depending on whether you fancy your match, you can make the date as long or short as you like! They are also a great way to meet people; everyone can chat over a coffee and a cheeky slice of cake. We hold coffee mornings regularly, meaning you don't even have to arrange your coffee dates; as always, RSVP's team of experts do the hard work for you. All you need to do is turn up and meet some new people.

Autumn has the best activities that you could do in pairs. Breaking the ice gently with things such as apple picking, carving a pumpkin, Halloween parties and not forgetting the classic stroll in the park with that special someone - perfect timing to lean in just that little bit closer, or wear their jacket when you need it. I can hear the crispy leaves under your feet now!

You are more likely to fall in love in autumn, due to your attitude changing as well as the seasons! In the summer, most of us like to kick back and have some fun. But once autumn comes around we all mature a little again and become somewhat more serious. More people get into relationships or become engaged in the autumn months.

The holidays are nearing. After you've finished taking down your Halloween decorations, you're more anxious to pair up with someone ready for Christmas and New Year. At the end of the day, who wants to be alone for the holidays? You could even book onto our events around Christmas time such as a Mix & Mingle or come along to our New Year's Even Gala Ball! Like I said, no one wants to be on their own during these joyous times.

So, what are you waiting for? Grab your woollies and get out there! Enjoy a coffee with that special someone or help another with their apple picking - you could even get a crumble out of it. What have you got to lose?

Call me today on 01572 774884 - or fill in the contact form here - and we'll get things started.

Is there still a place for romance?

Lucy Worsley on Romance, copyright BBC

In her recent BBC documentary series "A Very British Romance", Lucy Worsley has treated us to details of romance in times past. But is there still a place for romance in the modern world of Tinder and the like?

Well, maybe. Here at dating agency RSVP, we still have plenty of romantics on our books, looking not just for love, but for the romance that goes with it.

In days gone by, men used to write poems in order to impress the ladies, using descriptive words such as 'blushing' or 'quivering' in order to make the women understand how they were feeling.

Here at RSVP, our members have moved with the times but managed to keep some of that traditional romance too. That ‘Good Morning’ text is far from just a good morning text – it’s thought of as the quickest way to let someone special know that, even across the miles, you are thinking of them. Similarly, a ‘Goodnight’ text is considered an intimate way of saying 'you're my last thought of the day'. 

Sometimes romance is getting an extra 'x' on a text message, making someone feel that little bit more special even when you're not at each others side.

I recall a phone call from a lovely gentleman - a Platinum RSVP member - who wanted to think out of the box; he didn’t want to make his third date the same as any other - a nice restaurant for a good meal, bunches of flowers or chocolates; he wanted to be the one who stood out from the rest, so with the help of one of our expert matchmakers, his next date, was a ‘Mystery tour’; they jumped in to his car with no plans except to drive for no more than one hour taking unknown roads until they spotted some place that took their fancy, chattering excitedly along the way, getting to know each other.

Another of our ladies called to tell us that, from the first call, she knew that the man we had matched her with was different, although the plan for the first date sounded normal enough - drinks; that turned in to a meal when neither wanted to part company so soon. The second date was a stroll around a stately home and gardens, where he surprised her with a home-made picnic - featuring Prosecco, champagne flutes and poached salmon - not a sausage roll in sight. 

Romance is action. Characterising people by their actions means we will never be fooled by their words. However, when feelings are mutual, the effort will be equalised; so, ladies, remembering to ask him how his day went goes a long way.

Dressing up to go out is an important aspect of romance for many RSVP members when they head out on RSVP singles events. Many will go to extra effort and get glammed up for our singles ball in Northamptonshire, this weekend.

So, in our view romance is still very much alive - it just takes a little effort - as it always did, in fact.

The science behind why love can enhance your senses

Love is a weird and wonderful thing, as we often consider, here at RSVP dating agency and singles club.

We are all actively seeking love, motivated by the wanting and the craving. Why? You ask. Because love is what makes the world 'go round'.

There is more to it than meets the eye. Love is the fundamental source of our bodily power. It is the human species equivalent to a super power - the closest you and I will ever get to being Batman or Superman!

Think about the last time you felt love, maybe with a significant other or your cat. When you look around you - everything seems to be in HD, colours are brighter, sounds are clearer, things you used to struggle with are no longer a struggle. When you have love in your life, you are a stronger you, the most amazing you that you can be.

And it's not all in your head! There are justifiable, scientifically backed answers for all of these ways that your senses become enhanced when you are in love.

Serotonin is a chemical in which we make in our brain. It is the voice of calm and helps ease anxiety. Although when you are in love, your levels of serotonin drop - which then makes you think more clearly and promptly. Which is why when we are in love, we can recall every single thing - from the sound of their voice or they way they hold your hand on the walk home.

Love banishes the negative Nancy in our heads. When dating someone, you tend to focus on the things that make them 'oh so great'. 

Your hearing naturally enhances because your brain is extra focused on your surroundings. It is your mind wanting to replay every last thing in which you are experiencing so that you can save it and think about it later.

As we said before, love can make you feel quite literally superhuman. Say hello to dopamine. Dopamine is what makes the feeling of love become your new addiction. It allows you to face your day to day worries with a positive you, rather than an anxious you.

So, science, you have wowed us with your powers. And, particularly, the Power of Love.

You could be the next one to experience your life in High Definition.With the help from our friendly team of matchmaking experts here at RSVP, you could be on your journey to feeling more like Batman or Superman.