Gents: How to establish Trust in Dating

At Dating Agency and Singles Club RSVP, we know that trusting another person is hard for many people, and made harder these days by dating apps that make you feel someone better is just a casual swipe away. Specifically, though, women who have troubling trusting their partners are usually on the lookout for certain things. Everyone has their own set of needs, but what does the sceptical woman want and need from her relationship? If you’re a woman who doesn’t trust easily, you may not even know the answer to this question. Let’s see if RSVP’s team of dating experts can help you out with that.

Let's start with what trust actually means. Trust is both a logical and emotional act. Emotionally, it's where you expose your vulnerabilities to people, but believing they will not take advantage of you. The Logical act of trust is where you have assessed the probabilities of gain and loss and concluded that the person in question will have a predictable manner. Trust is a two way communication which pulls together the logical act and emotional.

There are a few things that will trigger the trust issue for women, for example bringing up sex too early on in the relationship. This makes a women feel as though you are just trying to use her or are being disingenuous and will straight away lock you out. Some men think the harder they try - calling or texting a lot - the more serious she will think he is. People often have their phones on them and worry why they are not messaging back. This can be for many reasons - such as a busy life style. If a man tries too hard this can sometimes be the easiest way to lose someone as women may decide you are a ‘clinger’.

Another example at the opposite extreme is that you are not giving the relationship the attention it deserves. It will crumble and the trust will disappear. The woman you are with is not just an option to pass the time. If you are with her make her feel special and if you are not with her, at least contact her saying you are thinking about her. A relationship is about teamwork and if one person does not do their part it falls.

A woman truly wants a man who…

1.       Trusts her.
2.       Loves her.
3.       Protects her.
4.       Is Passionate.
5.       Has Ambition.

RSVP’s team of matchmaking experts are here to help you find the right partner for you.

Beating the odds

Have you ever thought you are the only single person on the planet? Then just when you finally think you may have found ‘the one’, they get snapped up from under you? Let’s be honest, when that happens, you automatically assume that there’s something wrong with you as a person. You go on a soul-search and find faults that aren’t actually there, plus a whole lot that are beyond your control. It’s pretty easy to find evidence for anything that you have programmed yourself to believe.

However…a recent article on Beating the Odds of Finding Mr Right by Jon Birger For The Daily Mail shows how mature single women in the UK outnumber men by almost a million. And this effect is exaggerated when women specify certain criteria in their perfect male partner, like a degree, for example. Plus, the situation worsens as you get older.

I found this article really intriguing, as a professional matchmaker for Dating Agency and Singles Club RSVP. It can be a common misconception that Dating Agencies struggle to attract men, so it’s something of a breath of fresh air to have these statistics out in the open. If I were the one searching, I would definitely want a team of professional matchmaking experts on my side searching for that special person on my behalf, as well as providing guidance to help me get the best out of every match. It’d certainly save wasting my time looking for a needle in a hay stack!

Although the Beating the Odds of Finding Mr Right article gives some good ways to find love, I wonder how many of us actually want to change our routines to find love? Love is acceptance, after all. I just know that mature single women need all the professional help they can get in finding a partner. And the matchmaking experts at RSVP are ready and willing to provide that help.

Are you guilty of procrastination with your dating journey?

It’s been longer than I would have liked, since I last wrote a blog. I asked myself why? The simple answer is, there is no real reason. Yes I can give you a long list of excuses, but no real valid reason. After all, we make time for what is important. I could say that life has taken over, like it sometimes does, yet I am a firm believer in freeing your time for people, rather than only talking to people in my free time.

Now I enjoy discussing the trials and tribulations of all dating aspects. I have a real passion for my role as Dating PA for RSVP’s Platinum Introduction Agency service. I can open up a whole new chapter in your life, giving you the key of the door to opportunities that you never would have had the chance to explore. I do not have a magic wand; you cannot buy love; yet I can assist on your journey a traditionaldating agency such as RSVP can offer you. Support, hints and tips: they will tell you what you need to hear, not just what you want to hear.

Are you guilty of procrastination with your dating journey? When your car goes wrong and you’ve spent an hour under the bonnet wondering what all those things do, you go to a garage. When your plumbing goes wrong – you call a plumber. When Google can’t tell you what your health problem is, you go to a doctor. In all of these circumstances you have to place trust and you have to make the time.

So what are you waiting for to start your journey with the help of one of RSVP’s expert Dating PAs? Remember that self-improvement gives us the best rewards. You can’t eat healthily for one day and expect instant results; you must eat well and visit the gym time and again. Next time you go on a date, remember you are one step closer to your goal. If you are guilty of procrastination, yet you want to be someone’s priority, pull up your big pants and call an expert.