Dating and Singles Events Nerves

One of the main things that often holds single people back from getting out there and dating is because they are nervous. If you focus in on this and come up with reasons why – it could be that they haven’t dated in while; or it could be because of low body confidence; but the most common reason is trust, particularly when it is a blind date and they don’t know very much about the person they are going on a date with.

At RSVP Dating Agency and Singles Club, we are confident we can help you on all of the above; allow me to address each of the above: 

Trust. if you are meeting people online, your safety may be compromised because you’re meeting a complete stranger and there is a chance that they are not who they say they are. At RSVP, we meet every single one of our members, requesting proof of identity and proof of address, without exception. This gives our members the confidence and the security to meet someone new and not worry about this.

You haven’t dated in a while. Whether it is 2 years, 12 years or 25 years ago, you may find it difficult to jump back into the dating world. Dating has changed. Whilst some embrace this and enjoy the opportunity of meeting new people, others find it tricky. You may find online dating a bit of minefield and question how to write a good profile for yourself which captures your personality well but doesn’t sound too generic. Then there is actually selecting and talking to different people. At RSVP, we make dating so much easier, from writing your profile, to providing phone numbers in a secure and confidential way. Depending on your chosen level of membership at RSVP, you could have your very own Dating PA to guide and support you on your dating journey; this has undoubtedly been the key to building confidence for many of our members who appreciate this level of professional support.

Low confidence in self. We say you just have to bite the bullet and get back out there. We often have members who start by attending RSVP’s Singles Events, which is easier and than one to one dating. Doing an activity in a group of singles (this could be walking, a group meal or even a tour) will help you build up your confidence and enjoy getting back out there. As previously stated, depending on your RSVP membership level, we have Dating PAs who can talk dates through with you and provide insightful guidance to navigate your dating world; at Platinum level, you can also enjoy a free introductory session with our confidence coach.

All that said, we all have moments on dates when our nerves get the better of us. Here is my advice for dates and singles events:

1. Plan ahead. Select an outfit; make sure that is something you feel comfortable in, which makes you feel good. Do make an effort. Turning up in your gardening gear will not get you a second date. Make sure your outfit is clean, ironed and still in its first flush of youth.

2. Allow yourself plenty of time to get ready and plan your route to the venue ahead. Arriving late doesn’t give the best first impression and if you are rushing to get there it is only going to increase your stress level.

3. As tempting as it is, don’t have too much to drink. It isn’t likely to end well.

4. Try to remember that everyone has been in your shoes at some point, whether it is a first date or a first RSVP singles event, the first event/date after a long spell is always the hardest, but it gets easier after that.

5. Have a good time. This is the easiest thing to forget. Typically, people put so much onus on a date or a singles event, they don’t realise that it is simply a good opportunity to get to know others and have fun.