Spring into action with RSVP singles events

Spring is fast approaching with everybody hoping for an improvement in the weather! Once the sun does start to finally shine, what better way to enjoy it than by attending an RSVP singles event?

The new RSVP singles event calendar for April - June 2013 is now hot off the press. Packed full of exciting hosted events and activities, there really is no better way to meet fellow like minded singles.

Looking through the calendar you will find an exciting mix of high adrenalin activities and relaxed informal evening events. Whichever you are more suited to, there really is something for every member to come along to and enjoy.

Throughout April, May and June you can enjoy a wide range of events such as:

• Sunday Walks and Cycle Rides
• Evening Horse Racing
• Walking Weekends
• Evening Meals at Country Pubs
• Exclusive RSVP Summer Ball Weekend

These are just a selection of the many events available to RSVP dating and singles events members.

Not a member? Don't panic, just request a sample RSVP singles events calendar so you can see what you have been missing out on! Once you're are member you too can choose from up to 50 hosted events and activities per month.

If you are a little nervous about attending, don't worry, as all of our events are hosted by an experiences RSVP host who will help ease you through your first few events. Also, we offer the chance to attend events alongside an RSVP Buddy, so you'll never feel left alone at anytime.

Spring yourself into action and start enjoying life as an RSVP singles events member!

RSVP Valentine's Ball

Valentine's is just around the corner and here at RSVP we are expecting love to be in the air at our exclusive Valentine's Ball!

After receiving some fantastic feedback and watching so many of our members enjoy themselves at last year's Valentine's party, we thought it best to arrange another black tie event.

The newly refurbished Holiday Inn, Weldon, Northamptonshire is the setting for our much anticipated Valentine's Ball, and if last year's event is anything to go by then this is most defiantly an evening not to miss!

RSVP members attending the event will enjoy a sumptuous three course meal followed by dancing until the early hours.

There is even an opportunity to enjoy other members company further with a relaxed Sunday morning stroll along the picturesque Welland Valley, taking in some fantastic views of Harringworth Viaduct.

There's also the option of stopping off for a bite to eat at the George and Dragon pub, in nearby Seaton before it's time pick up your bags and head home.

If you can't make this event don't worry as their are some fantastic events coming up in the January - March 2013 calendar for RSVP dating and singles events members. So why not kick start your new year by attending some events and meeting fellow like minded singles?

Dating: the science

Guest post from Harriet Barnett of Nottingham Trent University:

RSVP is one of the most successful dating agencies that has an abundance of success stories from members, but what makes these relationships so successful? My name is Harriet Barnett, I am a psychology student from Nottingham Trent University in my third year conducting my final year project into what factors make relationships successful. I am hoping to find several factors that support previous literature showing that factors such as intimacy, trust and similarity - to name a few - contribute to this.

Very kindly, RSVP have allowed me to interview several of their previous members who have now met their partner. These short interviews are then transcribed and analysed and will be presented anonymously in my report, which is proving a delightful task at the moment – one I know many of my fellow third years would look at me strangely for saying! The interview – or as I prefer to call it – casual chat – includes questions regarding the formation and maintenance of the relationship as well as the features of a relationship that ‘make it work’.

Once the report has been completed and I have finished my third year (a terrifying thought at this moment in time!) in the summer, I will be presenting my anonymised findings to RSVP, who will no doubt pass them on in this blog! Meanwhile, if you have any questions or thoughts please feel free to share them with me through the RSVP contact page; it’d be a pleasure to hear from you!

Start 2013 with something new

2013 is nearly upon us and the events team here at RSVP have just sent out the new January-March calendar to RSVP dating and singles events members.

The start of the new year is a great opportunity to try something new or embark on a fresh romance, so start the new year on a positive note by coming to few more RSVP singles events.

You can now book your tickets for our Valentines Ball; this has proved very successful in previous years in sparking off some new romances, so let's get dressed up, make some new friends and who knows where it might lead?

After last year's success we have reserved tickets for the Burn's Night at Moor Hall Hotel; this event sells out fast, so please don't leave it to the last minute and be disappointed. Book Today!

We are excited to be running a photography course in March; whether you have an SLR or a compact camera, come and spend the day with a professional photographer and learn how to get the results that will impress your friends. The morning will concentrate on landscapes and outdoor photography and after lunch the focus will be people and portraits. This will be a great opportunity to ask lots of questions and pick up tips from a professional. Places are limited so book early.

By request we have included an event at the National Gallery in Trafalgar Square. The National Cafe is a lovely venue to have lunch and followed by a stroll around the gallery seems a perfect way to spend a winter afternoon.

Whatever type of events appeals to you, there is a wide range available to choose from, all of which will be hosted by one of our fantastic hard working RSVP hosts.

No fakes at RSVP...

During a meeting this week with a prospective new dating agency member, we were chatting about her online dating experiences and how disappointing she had found it. Amongst the usual stories of meeting guys who didn't live up to the expectations of their profiles and pictures, she mentioned that just as her membership was due to expire she received an email from a guy who was a near perfect match to what she was looking for. As she couldn't reply to him as a lapsed member, she paid for another three months membership. Sadly, despite the interest he showed initially, she never heard from him again. Funny, that. 

This was particularly interesting as it has been reported on Channel4 last week that a large internet dating provider has admitted to using fake profiles on their sites to entice people into paying to join. They confessed that they employed some 20 people to send fabricated messages from these profiles to deceive their members and keep them paying for longer. The report focused on a "white label" dating site where many different themed dating sites share one database of members, so unless you read the small print you may not realise you have joined a variety of differently branded sites and not all may reflect your taste or requirements.

There is no denying that lots of people turn to internet dating when looking for a partner. However, many discover the experience to be impersonal and disappointing at best and some fall victim to scammers and unscrupulous people pretending to be someone they are not. Many of our members here at RSVP have told us they prefer the personal approach that we provide and that our joining process, which includes meeting all of our members face-to-face, helps them to feel safer and better prepared for their dates.

One of our primary aims at RSVP is to provide a professional, personal, confidential and honest service. We want our members to meet a new partner. Many have shared stories of their positive experiences of RSVP with their friends. With over 20 years experience behind us and many successful, lasting relationships formed, we have absolutely no need to use fake profiles or to hide behind someone else's brand. RSVP members really are who they say they are.

Happy Birthday RSVP

Last weekend to help celebrate our 20th birthday, the staff here at dating agency RSVP held a black tie birthday bash at the beautiful 4 star Ardencote Manor Hotel & Spa, Claverdon, Warwick.

Members both old and new were invited to enjoy the evening alongside staff, with all the ladies looking beautiful in their ball gowns and the gents extremely smart in their dinner jackets.


RSVP's very own Birthday cake!

It was great to catch up with old members who had met through RSVP, telling us with great excitement their forthcoming wedding plans and other news! It was also a great way to meet new members and we also had a great mix of age groups, with all levels of membership represented: Neon, Gold and Platinum.

Celebrations carried on long into the night with members enjoying each others company and staying on the dance floor all night! It was also great to hear that there were some successful matches resulting from the evening, proof again if needed, that if you get out there attending events your ideal partner could be just around the corner!

Now that Christmas is fast approaching there are plenty of other singles events to get booked on to, including the RSVP Christmas Party Night at the Sibson Inn and New Years Eve Dinner Dance at Staverton Park. These are just some of the many events available in our October-December 2012 RSVP Event Calendar.

Why it's worth keeping your phone out of sight on a date

I'm sure that all you avid daters keep up to date with the latest publication of the The Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, the international journal that publishes research on social and personal relationships. But just in case you missed the last one issued in September, it gave some very good advice about why you shouldn't look at your mobile phone during a romantic date.

That's obvious, I hear you say, I know I should be focusing on my date 100%, you've mentioned it enough in the RSVP dating blog. Well the research discovered that it's not just the fact that you will appear rude by checking your messages or the time.

Psychologists have discovered that the mere presence of a mobile phone or device may influence what your date is thinking about too. When they spot the device, their mind can start wandering and they begin to think about other people and events outside of the immediate social context.

When you are on a date with someone you fancy - or even at one of RSVP's many singles events, you should be trying to create a connection between the two of you so that your date wants to see you again. Like living organisms, relationships have a beginning, a lifespan and an end. They tend to grow and improve gradually, as people get to know each other and become closer emotionally. The beginning of a relationship is the most fragile, as the connection between you is so slight, it can break at any time. This is the stage when first impressions are so key. A vast amount of research has been done to look at how you can influence the success of this stage. You really can make a difference.

So, remember when you glance at your phone to check the time, not only will they think you need a lesson in manners, their mind will also start to wander and they'll start thinking about other things. And don't place the phone on the table where it can be seen - even the presence of a phone or i-pad in eye-shot can interfere with the connection you are trying to make with your date.

If you want more hints and tips on how to make your date go well, have a look at RSVP's dating tips and advice site.

And if you want to read more about the psychology of why and how we fall for someone, the book Falling in Love: Why We Choose the Lovers We Choose gives a great insight, with some real research to back up the statements it makes – well worth reading.