Burlington Hotel in Birmingham today to meet some Birmingham Singles looking to join RSVP, I was very happy to receive a compliment from a guy on the train. It really made me smile and it brightened my day. So, for the rest of the journey I was left pondering on the best way to deliver a pleasant compliment to a lady. It's a problem often put to RSVP's dating coach, Stephanie Robinson.
Of course, we all know men and women's brains are wired differently and what
seems like a perfectly logical compliment from the guy's point of view can
quickly turn sour when interpreted by the lady. So what is a man to do? How is
he ever meant to get it right?
Well, a recent survey by a health care provider has suggested that one
of best, sure-fire ways to compliment a lady is by making a comment that
suggests that she has lost weight. I have to say, I agree wholeheartedly with
this, if it comes from someone I know. A simple "you're looking very trim in
that outfit" would definitely lift my day. However, be warned; avoid saying
that a lady "looks well". It is a comment that I have heard more than once and I
immediately think you are saying "you've put a bit of weight on". And the survey
suggests that I am not the only one here - so be warned!
Another safe bet could be to make a positive comment about how they are
looking - for example you could say that you like their smile or eyes. Although
don't do what my husband did when he first met me and ask if they are wearing
coloured contact lenses. I am sure he was well-meaning, but I wasn't impressed!
Other sage areas for you to try could include mentioning the colours they are
wearing or the outfit they have chosen. At the end of the day, we like to know
that we are looking good today and made the right choices about what
Looking at a recent Yahoo survey, the best compliment voted on by their
readers was "Are your feet sore, because you have been running through my mind
all night". A great line, but I'd say this was a pretty risky strategy. I know
that a man who makes you laugh can be very attractive, but you don't want to be
labelled as a "player" used to delivering slick and insincere comments to lots
of ladies. And you are definitely not being funny when you say "You are not as
stupid as you look" - but I know you wouldn't say that, would you?
Having said all of this and made you feel nervous about saying anything to me
when we meet, I must say that the best advice I can give the men out there is
not to be put off from making a compliment just in case you get it wrong. When
someone else tells you that you look good, it can do wonders for your self
confidence and always makes you smile. Just take a second to think about what
you are going to say first - and how it could be interpreted - before you actually say it! It might be logical to
you - but will it come across that way?