All the world's a stage!

It might go by different names including The Law of Attraction, the Golden Rule, or even Karma but, simply put, if you want a positive outcome, you need to attract what you want into your life by aligning your thoughts to the outcome you are looking for. Positive thinking works!

Anyone who knows me well will be aware that I like to set myself challenges. I believe that life is for living and I don’t want to sit in my rocking chair as an old woman thinking about all the things I wish that I had achieved. However, when I was young I would always think about the negative and was afraid to try new things because I was worried about failing or about people laughing at me. What I have discovered with age is that people may well laugh at me when I try things – but I laugh a whole lot more myself – and that makes me feel great! So, I have tried to concentrate on the positive feelings in my heart and thoughts in my mind and rather than worry about what others might say about me I know think about my own future and how I want to feel, as well as what I want to accomplish.

So, now, I pay attention to those feelings that leave me feeling good and not to those that don’t. This can be most clearly demonstrated last week, when I appeared in an amateur production of Anything Goes. I love to dance and perform but, as a youngster, I never had the confidence to stand on stage and do so – my performances were restricted to my bedroom. Since reaching 40, I have decided to get rid of that demon and do some of the things I never had the guts to do. So, I have now taken some dancing exams and have sung and danced in front of an audience. Yes I was nervous – but I did it! And what a feeling it has left with me.

So, why am I telling you about this? Well, we are always talking to our RSVP members to get out on our many singles events because we know it is such a great way to meet potential new partners. And many of our members are initially horrified at the thought. But, if I can get up on stage and dance – you can come along to a singles event! What’s the worst that can happen? You might just have some fun!

And, take the moment I forgot my steps in the middle of a dance; I thought everyone would notice, but, actually, if I hadn’t mentioned it, no-one would have noticed! I just kept smiling and carried on!

So how do you cope with attending a hosted event where you don’t know anyone? You want to make sure you are really focusing on the positive outcomes and do your best to push the negative out of your mind. The huge benefit with RSVP singles events is that everyone's single, so they're all in the same boat as you; the big negative thought that the person you approach is already attached just isn't there. The positive thoughts will make you much more receptive to experiencing positive feelings. Then you will start to relax and enjoy yourself. And when you are smiling and having a good time you are much more attractive to others.  

And remember that seemingly unrelated and inconsequential encounters can have a great significance as you pursue your dreams. You might not meet the partner of your dreams at your first event - though there are plenty of RSVP success stories where that has happened - but you'll surely make some more friends and they may know someone who might be just right for you. In today’s world of instant gratification and microwave popcorn, we need to take more time to focus on persistence while we remember that those things that happen easiest or fastest are often not the best.