We live in a world where Health and Safety has gone mad, where we need insurance policies to cover our insurance policies. MOTs to make sure our cars are roadworthy – I remember when we didn’t even have seat belts – so how can we take steps to prevent this number increasing?
So here I am Friday night, sitting on the sofa with my meal for one (well, officially, for two, but of course the portions are stingy) lounge trousers and a t-shirt on (same one I’ve worn all week), beer in hand, flicking through the TV channels – nothing on again. So, I thumb through You magazine and spot ‘Beware your online soul mate’.
So am I just being taught to suck eggs?
I have given some thought to the sequence of eight steps that You magazine claim fraudsters use to hook you; I can relate to these:
- SELECTING A TARGET – Looking for a profile that contains honest/trustworthy.
- GAINING SYMPATHY- They have been through so much, yet they are a fighter and they have trusted me enough to tell me.
- ACCEPTING MY BAGGAGE – I have children and I sustained a leg injury at work, so I sometimes limp; she doesn’t mind.
- CHANGING MY HABITS – I rush home to talk to her, change plans with friends.
- MIRRORING – She watches the same things on TV and has the same interests, some are newly discovered so I am helping her explore.
- CUTTING ME OFF – We have to keep this low key for now, she is so fragile from her past and she is trusting me.
- TAKING ME OUT OF MY COMFORT ZONE –She sent me nude photos; I returned the favour, as she was so sweet and really wanted them, but now I can’t upset her; she has naked photos.
- BUILDING A DREAM – All she needs to do is get some money together to move closer; she is working a few jobs; she is so tired, but we have everything planned. She just needs that extra bit of help from me financially and it will speed it all up.
With the matchmaking service provided by RSVP, we take care of steps 1 and 2 automatically; step 3 is also taken care of by the professional matchmaking team. The remaining steps that hook you in can still happen, if you have a black and white thinking style; however the matchmaking team are always at the end of the phone to help and flag up any warning signs – a safety net, so to speak. Of course, knowing that every RSVP member has been met by one of our expert Dating Consultants – so they really are who we say they are – and that all members have paid a registration fee, means your chances of bumping into a fraudster through RSVP are so tiny as to be negligible.
Join RSVP and date safely.