New Calendar Highlights

Well we certainly won't forget 2012's 'Summer of Sport' with fantastic British success in so many categories of this summers amazing Games. If you have found yourself inspired to try something new, why not give an RSVP Singles event a try? Our new October-December 2012 calendar has just been sent out, full of exciting social events and activities for you to try alongside fellow like-minded RSVP dating and singles events members. Why not have a go at events such as:

• Yachting & Kayaking at Rutland Water
• Shooting at Long Acres
• Walking Weekend in The Long Mynd Hills
• Taster Microlight Experience

With Christmas fast approaching, get into the festive spirit at the RSVP Christmas Party Night. Taking place on Saturday, 1 December at the Sibson Inn, near Peterborough, enjoy a sumptuous three course meal with wine and disco until 1am. The dinner is exclusive to dating agency RSVP; we will then join with other parties for the dancing afterwards.

Struggling for New Years Eve? Dating agency RSVP has this covered! Enjoy a Dinner Dance at Staverton Park, Daventry, Northamptonshire. A champagne reception is followed by a delicious dinner with music from a live band and disco. Price includes overnight accommodation and full use of the hotels facilities, including pool, spa, steam room and golf course.

If your not already a member of  dating agency RSVP don't panic, all you need to do is request a sample RSVP singles events calendar, look through and see what takes your fancy! You too could be enjoying fantastic hosted single events and activities amongst fellow like minded singles. Or, you can also book onto an open taster event, designed to accomodate non members, experience for yourself an RSVP singles event before becoming a full member.

All of our singles events are hosted by an experienced RSVP dating and singles events member, who will guide you through your first event, making the experience that bit easier and more enjoyable. So dont be nervous, request a calendar and start enjoying life as an RSVP singles events member!

Dating Disasters

I was asked to speak to BBC West Midlands Radio last week about dating disasters and the biggest turn-offs for men and women. I think most of our dating members at RSVP are pretty intelligent and clued up about dating, so most of my stories of horror come from the experiences our members have had before they joined RSVP. That is one of the big advantages of joining a dating agency. Any good dating agency should be aiming to help you be as successful as possible in meeting the person of your dreams. Here are some of my top tips that I give to new members going dating with RSVP.

1. Be realistic and set yourself realistic goals when meeting someone for the first time. By keeping your cool and not setting unattainably high expectations, you avoid disappointment. Instead, your goal should be to have fun and see if there's any potential chemistry.

2. Make the first date a meeting for coffee or a drink. Keep the meeting light and relaxed.

3. Make an effort with your appearance. Don't come straight from the gym or garden. Wear something relaxed but that shows you have actually thought about the other person before you came to meet them. If you want some help with what to wear, RSVP's own image coach has plenty of useful tips.

4. Keep the conversation light; talk a little and then let your date talk. Ask your date lots of questions about them. DO NOT TALK ABOUT YOUR EX PARTNER.

5. Avoid taking calls on your phone or texting whilst out with a date - it's just plain rude! The person you are sitting with is going to think you aren't interested in them.

6. Be prepared to give the person a chance. Don't judge them by one statement that annoys you when you really don't know the context. Remember they are going to be as nervous as you are and it is normal to be nervous!

7. Play it cool and never come on too strong. Wait to see if your feelings are reciprocated before you declare your undying love. And don't bombard someone you've just met with text messages and calls - it scares them off.

And please remember not to lose sight of the fact that the people you are meeting are real people with real feelings just like you. At the very least, enjoy having coffee with someone new and give them the courtesy of listening to what they have to say for a couple of hours. If you find that there's no chemistry at the end of the date, then be polite but honest. One of the biggest moans I hear from RSVP dating agency members is that the person they saw on a date says they want to meet again and then disappears.

Get on your bike this summer with RSVP!

Fancy getting on your bike and making the most of the summertime? If so, here at Dating agency RSVP we have three beautifully-organised summer cycle tours in our new July-September singles events calendar. After receiving great feedback from RSVP dating and singles event members about previous events ran in our last calendar we have teamed up again to organise more of these fantastic tours from London.

With events running in July, August & September, you can choose when to get out there and enjoy the summertime and with a choice of activities alongside the cycling, what better way to enjoy a day out than with fellow like minded singles on an RSVP open taster event?

Bike Ride to watch the Road Racing Cycle Event

Saturday, 28 July

You can get involved in this once-in-a-lifetime event by joining us for the day but it involves the small sacrifice of an early start! We will need to meet at Twickenham Station at 8:30am before watching the road race pass by and enjoy the excitement of the event. Then after a bit of breakfast (pay as you go) we'll cycle the traffic free roads up to Richmond Park to watch the cyclists return. A return ride and ferry to Twickenham for some riverside pubs will finish this unique day. Membership is not required for this great day out as it's an RSVP open taster event. 


Jester's Ale Pub Ride with ale tasting and afternoon tea picnic

Sunday, 12 August

Meet us at Putney riverside at 10am for  12 mile historic bike tour along this London Boat Race river route crossing the river 4 times (some steps) passing the houses and pubs of this old part of London. A pub lunch, "shots of ale" taster, afternoon tea picnic in a stately home park and riverside pubs will finish the day. Membership is not required for this great day out as it's also an RSVP open taster event.

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Windsor Castle Country Ride and afternoon tea picnic

Saturday, 15 September

This 20 mile ride is for those that requested a longer cycle and involves meeting at 9:30am at Hampton Court Train Station. It's a great ride from Hampton Court to Windsor past quaint locks, country villages, a Royal farm Shop and finishing with an afternoon tea picnic overlooked by Windsor Castle. You are then able to return home by train from Windsor about 5pm.


If cycling is not your thing don't panic, with such a great selection of other events to choose from why not come along and enjoy all the thrills and spills of an RSVP singles event near you?

New RSVP Calendar Highlights

We have now certainly entered 2012's 'Summer of Sport' with the European football underway and tennis, golf and the much-anticipated Games themselves all around the corner! What better way to enjoy all of these historic sporting events than by booking yourself onto an RSVP Singles event and enjoying the atmosphere alongside fellow like-minded RSVP dating and singles events members?
The good news is that we have just sent out our new July-September 2012 calendar to members, which is full of exciting singles events for you to come along and enjoy such as:

• Bike Ride to Watch the Off Road Cycle Event
• Great Summer Garden Party
• Newmarket Races with Behind the Scenes Tour
• Weekend Escape to Norfolk

One event RSVP members will not want to miss is our Exclusive 'Happy 20th Birthday, RSVP' Ball at the Ardencote Manor Hotel. This promises to be a night to remember, so why not join us for our black tie birthday bash at this beautiful 4 star Spa Hotel and enjoy a sumptuous three course dinner with wine, followed by dancing until late?

Dating agency RSVP has also included a Weekend Escape to Norfolk in our new calendar. Starting on Friday, 21 September enjoy 2 nights bed & breakfast in the Royal Hotel, Mundesley-on-Sea. There are various possible activities for the weekend including:

• Nostalgic journey aboard a real steam train
• Great Yarmouth's Pleasure Beach
• Stroll along the beautiful Norfolk coastline
• Boat trips along the stunning Norfolk waterways

If you're not already an RSVP member don't panic, just request a sample RSVP singles events calendar, look through and see what takes your fancy! Join now and you too could be enjoying a fab summer of superb events and activities. Or, you can also book onto an open taster event, which are open to non members and are a great way to experience an RSVP singles event!

If you are a little nervous about attending an event, don't be, as all of our singles events are hosted by an experienced RSVP dating and singles event member. The hosts will help ease you through your first event and impart some words of wisdom to make your first experience that little bit easier and more enjoyable.

Is a lack of confidence holding you back in your dating?

Confidence is a very attractive quality and something that comes up again and again when we are discussing "ideal" partners with our new and existing RSVP dating members. They use terms like "confident", "self-assured", "happy-in-their-skin" and "comfortable with who they are". 

As I was driving to work this week I was shocked to hear the results of a recent all parliamentary group report that has found over half of us are unhappy with our body image. They see this as "an underlying cause of health and relationship problems, a key contributor to low self-esteem and a major barrier to progression at work". This got me thinking about how closely our body image is tied to our self confidence and the impact this can have. Of course a loss in confidence can be caused by all kinds of things, but it seems clear to me that a dislike of our appearance or any loss of confidence seriously affects our ability to make and maintain successful relationships.

Here at dating agency RSVP, we believe you will be more successful in finding your ideal partner if you are happy with the way you look and the life you are leading. As the chinese philosopher Confucius said "how things look on the outside of us depends on how things are on the inside". To help you achieve this, we offer image coaching and relationship coaching either as a stand alone service or as part of our Platinum introduction agency membership. Our dating PAs understand that rebuilding your confidence is a key part of the dating process and the personal service they are able to offer platinum members is a valuable extra benefit.

Having attended our May Ball Leicestershire Singles Event last weekend, I can testify first hand how good our events can be. Attending events is another great way to rebuild your confidence and make that important first step back into dating. As well as being great fun, they give you a "safe" place to take the first step and are a great way to meet new friends...after all, everyone there is in the same situation as you.

If you would like to discuss joining or upgrading, please give our team a call.

Why do Men Flirt in the Workplace?

At Dating Agency RSVP, we were recently asked an interesting question, which we thought best to share with our followers. Why do men flirt in the workplace?

Some common thoughts are that men try to flirt their way to the top! Psychologists who have studied this disagree, finding men who flirt at work actually lack in sensitivity. This would suggest there is no real benefit in flirting, to advance any career progression. Low job satisfaction is another possibility, if lacking in motivation or easily distracted, the chance to flirt will give him something fun to do, adding a bit of excitement to what so far has been yet another unsatisfying day.

This possible theory was investigated by business psychologists Chadi Moussa and Adrian Banks from the University of Surrey, through a questionnaire that measured flirting behaviours at work, job satisfaction, self reported job performance, and personality. Said Chadi: “Previous research has shown that people flirt for various reasons, which include increasing their self-esteem, fun and romance. If men are feeling unsatisfied in their roles, then they may resort to flirting to keep them entertained and this would partially explain the negative relationship. While flirting can have benefits, excessive flirting at work may be a sign that you’re unsatisfied with your job or simply bored. These findings contradict popular notions that flirting at work can make employees mores satisfied or perform better”.

So what reasons are there to explain the flirtatious male in the workplace? One thing that has crossed our mind is, perhaps a lack in confidence or low self esteem around women is actually what causes men to go into “flirt mode”, therefore deflecting away from any confidence issues that arise when placed in difficult situations.

RSVP’s dating coach Stephanie Robinson regularly holds personal coaching sessions to help build the confidence of people who struggle in these scenarios.

Booking a session with Steph would certainly help both your confidence and self-esteem. Then afterwards why not test it out the best possible way, by booking on a selection of RSVP singles events?

Hosts Wanted for RSVP Singles Events

We are currently looking to recruit additional hosts for our RSVP Singles Events in all areas. If you are fun, outgoing, positive, influential, diplomatic, supportive and, above all, an all-round ‘people person’ we’d love to hear from you.

We would also like to re-invigorate our ‘Event Buddy’ scheme, whereby we can put new members in touch with an existing member who could perhaps show them the ropes.

If you have a few RSVP Singles Events under your belt - maybe a singles dinner or two or perhaps one or more of our many singles walks and would be prepared to impart some words of wisdom to a new member to ease them through their first event - or better still get them to attend an event with you - please get in touch with RSVP Events Manager Wendy on 01572 774886.