Cherish Today

This morning I read an article that saddened me greatly. It was reported in the Evening Standard that MilesDonnelly murdered a single mother after meeting her through online dating siteOasis.

 

Rather than slam internet dating and harp on about the importance of keeping ourselves safe online, I would like to take a moment to send our thoughts and prayers to the family of the victim Usha Patel.

 

It is with great sadness that when women are faced with the harsh reality of single life with a young child in tow, our need for attention heightens, which can leave us wide open to many situations that would appear out of character.

 

After all, we all want to be liked and ultimately loved, so we will put in that extra effort and take the risk. Sometimes this pays off and we met that person who makes our eyes dance and heart sing. Not all stories end tragically; the blame here lies only with the individual who stole a mother from a young child.

 

Tomorrow isn’t promised; cherish today; we never expect to need an emergency plan. However, the route of using a traditional dating agency like RSVP, where every member has been met, will definitely deter those with criminal intent and will help set your mind at ease. Knowledge is power; I strongly urge all daters to research traditional offline agencies through the Association of British Introduction Agencies.

 

RSVP offer our deepest sympathies to friends and family of Usha.

Modern Dating Etiquette

So is there such a thing as dating etiquette in the modern day?

 

Should some things remain private between a couple? Well, this choice is unique and personal to you, not only as an individual but as a couple.

 

However, surely anything that you do disclose should be discussed between you both. How does this work at the beginning of a relationship?

 

Most of us have that one friend that we see as our ‘human diary’; some may even be lucky enough to have a few; you know those friends that you ‘over share’ with and tell your deepest darkest secrets and desires to; things that you wouldn’t dream of relating on social media.

 

A normal day for an RSVP Dating PA (that’s the service that comes with RSVP’s Platinum Introduction Agency membership) means you hear many stories. I am the first to say that nothing shocks me anymore; you have the comfort of knowing that even if you do seek advice or over share with our team of matchmaking experts, it definitely won’t:

A-     Get plastered all over Facebook/Twitter etc  

B-      Be accidently leaked to the partner or other friends

C-      Result in you feeling judged on your actions.

 

After all, I – along with my fellow Dating PAs – am  here for that purpose; a wise but impartial and non-judgemental expert. I will tell you what you need to hear, rather than what you want to hear, to help you on your dating journey.

 

Now I was slightly surprised that there is a fairly new kid on the internet block, with a Dating app that girls can swipe left/right – fairly common these days; however, you can also join as ‘a ghost’ to help a member of your girl group search for her perfect guy; it doesn’t stop there, they can even be involved in the messages; yes, they can see the whole conversation as well as add to it!

 

Do you find this kind of dating enticing? How well do your friends know what you REALLY want in a partner? I wonder how the guys will react to dating a team!

 

I think I’d rather leave my dating in the hands of a professional team. My advice? Put your phone down and get yourself out to one of the superb singles events hosted by RSVP and meet some genuine singles face to face.

In or Out the Dating version

I remember a time when being an inny or an outty referred to your belly button; gosh, how times change.

 

Today my question refers to the online dating community.

 

A Good Morning Britain investigation has revealed one in ten women have felt physically or verbally attacked after meeting someone online, with one in four receiving explicit messages within three minutes of chatting.

 

We all profess to err on the side of caution; we know what we should do; however, does that stop us doing what we want to do?

 

Here at RSVP dating agency and singles club, we take care of the ‘should do’ side of it for you; we meet every single member face to face. As for explicit messages, they’re not really a problem in RSVP. Whatever happens, it’s nice to know that one of our team are always there to listen and advise confidentially on the best course of action.

 

Ninety-eight percent of women said  they’d always organise a first date in public, to stay safe. But in a fifth of cases, they changed their mind and they met at someone’s home instead. In a third of cases the women said they’d gone back to a private home after a first date.

 

So, as women, why do we change our minds last minute? Maybe it boils down to the quest for instant gratification that we all suffer from, from time to time. We are constantly told in for a penny in for a pound; we both know we are interested, so why not jump in?

 

I personally believe that slow and steady wins the race. A great way to stay safe is to arrange a first meeting at a pre-organised singles event, for example one of RSVP’s mix and mingles, where, if you don’t hit it off, you have an easy escape route.

 

Just remember ladies, our behaviour influences others. I am definitely an ‘outty’ (on this subject, at least).