Friday, 24 February 2012

The Power of Positive Thinking in Dating

On my way back from one of the RSVP singles events in Northamptonshire the other day, I was reflecting that all of us affect, in one way or another, the people around us. This happens instinctively and on a subconscious level, through thoughts and feelings transference, and through body language. People sense our personality very quickly when they meet us and are affected by our thoughts, and vice versa. Is it any wonder that we want to be around positive people and avoid negative ones? People are more disposed to help us if we are positive, and they dislike and avoid anyone broadcasting negativity.

The power of positive thinking is not ignoring reality. Bad things still happen to postive people as they do with negative people. However there are numerous scientific studies that prove beyond doubt that the power of positive thinking is that hopeful, optimistic people have been shown to be more healthy and live longer and generally report greater satisfaction with life.

The advantageous impact of positive thought can therefore have a significant impact on first impressions when dating. One of the most common requests I hear when I am meeting singles joining dating agency RSVP is that they want to meet someone with a positive outlook on life.

So, if you want to make yourself more attractive to potential partners, then I suggest you determine to be positive throughout the day, wherever you are. I guarantee that, by appearing positive and upbeat, you will make yourself more attractive and meet more people.

Other positive actions you can take:
  1. Look through your dating profile and eliminate any negative statements - dislikes, mustn't haves, no this, no that, you know the kind of thing. 
  2. Never talk about past relationships. Chances are, if you are dating, your previous relationships didn't work. Whatever the reason, the new person in your life won't want to hear about it! Remember to stay positive when out on a date. This might mean you prepare some topics of conversation before you make that first phone call or go out on a date.
  3. Try not to complain about the service in the restaurant or how your last date went. You would do much better to talk about what you are looking forward to, or something you are passionate about. In this way your energy and positivity will shine through and make you much more attractive.
  4. Remove negative influences that bring you down. If your friends are constantly critical about things, this will strongly influence how you react to things. Avoid anyone who zaps your positive thinking - they are positivity vampires who want to make you as miserable as they are: Radio 4's Today programme, for example.
  5. Avoid talking yourself down - what is often called negative self-talk on motivation courses. You need to believe in yourself first before you can expect anyone else to believe in you. 
If you think a more positive outlook might improve your dating prospects, try one or both of these:

Beyond Positive Thinking: The Advanced Formula for Total Success Revealing a Guaranteed Path to Getting the Results You Want.

Kiss That Frog!: 12 Great Ways to Turn Negatives into Positives in Your Life and Work.

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